If I want to think of a time when my inner thoughts weren’t self-critical, I have to think back very far. Practically to a point where life was largely non-verbal, and I don’t remember too much aside from images. The warmth of sunlight on my face. The view of my own tiny stockinged feet shoved into full-body pajamas. » Read more
“Face the demons if they approach, but don’t go demon hunting,” my friend Gull says.
It’s solid advice.
At one point in my life, I was totally overrun by demons. They poured in like one of those epic scenes in The Lord of the Rings. Think the Battle of Helmsdeep. » Read more
I’m very interested in polyamory, but one thing holds me back. I worry that it’s not possible to have multiple relationships and have them all be as deep and invested as they possibly can be. I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I pride myself in working hard at everything I do, as hard as I possibly can. » Read more
“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.”
As I wrote in a previous post, there are worse things than conflict, including perpetually running away from one you need to address. One commenter on that piece made a great observation: “Honesty and conflict resolution are so much easier in theory than in practice.” » Read more
Self-compassion, the ability of a person to forgive themselves when they make mistakes, is more important than self-esteem when it comes to success in life and overall emotional well-being.
Self-compassion is not only important for our individual happiness. It’s also vital in relationships.
The reason for this: People who are low in self-compassion? » Read more
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
“So this is going to sound a little weird, Page,” he said.
“Perfect,” I said.
“I love it when there’s something wrong with the girls I date, » Read more