Your Friendly Neighborhood Relationship Anarchist

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The Many Faces of Relationship Anarchy

The first time I heard the term “relationship anarchy,” I practically leapt out of my chair.

I’d been talking about how the way I viewed (and practiced) polyamory didn’t fall in line with a former metamour’s. We approached poly very differently, and invariably whenever we had philosophical differences,  » Read more

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The Taxonomy of Cacti, or Poly Curiosity Killed the Cat’s Social Life

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It’s fairly easy to generate a plethora of positive-sounding reasons why someone might be a good fit for polyamory. You could be a person who loves freely, without boundaries, secure, set on enriching your own life and as many other lives as possible through unique personal connections, intent on having myriad intense life experiences.

Me?  » Read more

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Unnaturally Poly

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A lot of my favorite poly bloggers share a similar story: They came to polyamory naturally. Monogamy just wasn’t a thing that they did well (or at all). Sure, they would try to fit themselves into that box, particularly when they came upon someone they truly cared about who expressed that exclusivity was important to them,  » Read more

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A Chameleon is Always a Lizard


Costumes: “…general usage has gradually been replaced by the terms ‘dress’, ‘attire’ or ‘wear’ and usage of ‘costume’ has become more limited to unusual or out-of-date clothing and to attire intended to evoke a change in identity, such as theatrical, Halloween, and mascot costumes.”

It’s that time of year again when I ponder my inclination to arrive at Halloween parties dressed as myself,  » Read more

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