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Low Energy in a Time of Great Boredom & Chaos

“I feel like the pandemic combines the worst parts of boredom and chaos. It’s not either entirely. And yet it’s both.”

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“Face the demons if they approach, but don’t go demon hunting,” my friend Gull says. It’s solid advice. At one point in my life, I… Read More »Demons and Wayward Brain Weasels: Making a Better Home for Anxiety

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