Long-Term Happiness in Polyamory Is About Choosing the Hard Thing That Helps You Grow
Being successful at polyamory really is about choosing the hard thing that helps you grow.
Being successful at polyamory really is about choosing the hard thing that helps you grow.
I have suffered from people pleasing my whole life, and am inclined to change too much for other people, especially if I like them. Even if it makes me miserable. It’s easy in such a situation to be suspicious of your own growth.
I see it a lot in my line of work: Someone has a string of disappointing dating experiences and searches for a commonality to all of them. And once they do, they make a rule about it.
“I hate how much time I wasted,” she says. “I spent all those years not knowing any better.”
The reality is that little breakthroughs can frankly be huge… even if not everyone understands right away when you’re telling them about the breakthrough and how much it means to you.
When you outgrow your relationship agreement, it’s a kind of success — not an indictment of relationship agreements.
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