When Someone Goes Way Out of Their Way for You & You Don’t Know What to Do
I don’t know what to make of any of it. I want to appreciate it, but I don’t want to be entitled to it.
I don’t know what to make of any of it. I want to appreciate it, but I don’t want to be entitled to it.
There was a meme that got really popular a while back that advised people who were dating folks who had been abused in the past. They’ll be grateful for little things, the meme said. And they’ll try to thank you for that. You need to discourage that behavior, the meme advised.
Some weeks you get a refresher course in gratitude. This past one was last like that for me.
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