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Polyamory

The Polyamory Card Office Is Permanently Closed

August 16, 2018 No Comments

a rainbow assortment of cards — Image by Tony Hisgett / CC BY

In my line of work, I get a lot of questions that are phrased like this:

“Am I not polyamorous if….?”
“Does XYZ make me less polyamorous?”
“If polyamorous people do XYZ does that mean they can’t still call themselves polyamorous?”

And while I can honestly say I don’t mind answering these questions, » Read more

Guest Blog Post, Polyamory

Who Shouldn’t Be Polyamorous?

September 25, 2017 No Comments

a wooden treehouse up in the branches of a tree in a forested area — Image by Martyn Smith / CC BY

Today’s article is a guest blog post by Matthew Shadrake.

Matt is a polyamorous switch and a big ole softie. He has previously contributed 3 posts to Poly.Land:

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Ambiamory, Poly/Mono, Polyamory, Sexual Orientation

To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum, Not a Binary

April 17, 2017 No Comments

A venn diagram up above a cityscape. One of the circles says "yes," the other says "no." The overlap between the two is labeled "me." — Image by Terminals & Gates / CC BY

Mono/poly relationships (i.e., pairings in which one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous) are famously difficult.

While there are many factors, we do ourselves no favors by viewing monogamy and polyamory as polar opposites rather than as points on the same spectrum.

Consider this: It’s difficult to find a workable middle between two things if you’re convinced that one can’t possibly exist. » Read more