Give Your Suffering Friends Time to Heal
The biggest gift we can give someone who is suffering is just holding space and being there for them.
The biggest gift we can give someone who is suffering is just holding space and being there for them.
I’m super happy these days. And a big part of that is who I don’t have around me.
Sometimes the bigger griefs, the universal ones, are too much to bear. I find I go numb when confronted with them. But the little griefs? The longing for missing conversations? Well, that’s able to slip right in past my defenses.
I know your current life isn’t your dream. I get that. But I’m so damn proud of you.
I struggle a lot with “outsider feelings” even when people get close to me. Will they go away completely one day? I have no way to tell. The important thing is that I don’t let them rule my life.
I just randomly meet polyamorous people, I guess. Even without trying.
“I’ll admit it,” he says, “I’ve done a lot of things in my life just for the story.”
“That sounds weird, doesn’t it?” she says. “I’m sorry if it sounds weird. I don’t mean to be so annoying.”
I thought I’d go on the record today and just be official about it: I am granting blanket absent friend forgiveness.
“It just occurred to me that I’ll never be able to watch that show again. That one character reminds me too much of him, and it’s just going to make me sad,” she confesses to me. “I can’t listen to our song. Forget about going back to that restaurant — our place. Our favorite place. So many things are ruined by everything going to hell with him, y’know?”