I’ve heard a lot of people talk about ethical non-monogamy as a way of describing polyamory and other forms of open relationships. I’ve noticed you don’t do that. Instead, you say “consensual non-monogamy.” Why?
1. Ethics are subjective.
ethical (adjective) – relating to moral principles or the branch of knowledge dealing with these, » Read more
In my line of work, I get a lot of questions that are phrased like this:
- “Am I not polyamorous if….?”
- “Does XYZ make me less polyamorous?”
- “If polyamorous people do XYZ does that mean they can’t still call themselves polyamorous?”
And while I can honestly say I don’t mind answering these questions, » Read more
One night, my boyfriend Rob called me on the phone after his wife Michelle left for the library. It was a low-key conversation. Just chitchat, really. We weren’t even having phone sex or anything. At least not yet, although in recent weeks, we’d fallen into a habit of sliding into phone sex after initial introductions. » Read more
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”
“My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory?” he says.
I nod. “When I wrote that book, » Read more
PQ 9.7 — Am I being asked to participate in, or be complicit in, something I consider dishonest or unethical?
“I don’t like being negative,” I say. I’ve just finished complaining about something another person did that really bothered me.
“It’s hard having morals,” he says.
I laugh. » Read more
What man loses by the social contract is his natural liberty and an unlimited right to everything he tries to get and succeeds in getting; what he gains is civil liberty and the proprietorship of all he possesses.
It is in order not to become victim of an assassin that we consent to die if we become assassins. » Read more
Today’s post is a guest blog post from Matthew Shadrake.
Matt is a polyamorous switch and a big ole softie.
In addition to being a hell of a writer, Matt is one of the best conversationalists I have ever met and may even be a bigger psych nerd than I am. » Read more
PQ 3.1 — Have I disclosed all relevant information to everyone affected by my decision? (Chapter 3 questions are all asked in the context of ones to ask to evaluate whether your choices are ethical.)
“You can’t just add on another relationship without consulting anybody. That’s not how poly fucking works!” » Read more
When direction is relative, it’s easy to get lost.
And direction is relative.
It’s easy to get lost. Few people find being lost fun. It can be a source of great anxiety.
It seems a far greater comfort to impose an artificial system as a guide, simply to avoid being lost. » Read more
Lately, I’ve been rolling around the concepts of dishonesty vs. an incomplete (or even merely representational) model – or similarly, inaccuracy as distinguished from explicit deception.
These are the stones that my brain tumbles in a constant attempt to smooth them.
I addressed this earlier within the framework of the popular logical problem in my essay, » Read more