Are Cat Lovers Masochists?

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Image by Omer Unlu / CC BY

I never know quite where you stand, and that’s why I’m so into you.

Your attention and affection aren’t readily available. Instead, they’re highly conditional. And those conditions are ever-changing, hidden from the rest of the world.

You play a game whose rules aren’t published anywhere. Because they fluctuate like Fluxx or Calvinball.  » Read more

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Love in the Hate Place, Hate in the Love Place

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Image by Robert Couse-Baker / CC BY

“Awww,” Skyspook said. “You loooove it.”

“Sure, I love it… in my hate place.”

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Skyspook often describes his own process of learning how to communicate in relationships (nonromantic and romantic, poly, mono, or otherwise) as going vegan with his emotions.

What he means by this is that he’s as upfront and as authentic about his feelings as possible,  » Read more

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