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Managing a D/s Dynamic When Your Partner Faces Mental Health Challenges

May 13, 2019 No Comments

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Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature.

Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.

And check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:

Mental Health and My D/s Dynamics

I believe that BDSM can be very healing, » Read more

Advice Friend, BDSM, D/s, Kink

“I’m in Love With My Domme, But She Doesn’t Love Me Back. What Should I Do?”

November 29, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

I’ve been struggling with something for a while now and need advice and support from someone who might understand.

Here’s the situation: I’m married to a vanilla guy I love a lot. He knows I’m a sub and that I have a Domme. I’ve been with my Domme for several years. » Read more

Advice Friend, D/s, Kink

Ask Page: How Did You Find Such a Good Dominant?

October 24, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

I’ve been reading your blog for about a year now. It’s my favorite one. Thank you for writing every day, for being there. I’ve read that you struggle with confidence, but you don’t need to. Never stop writing!

I discovered you through my friends on the kink scene (who call you “Page the sage” » Read more

Advice Friend, BDSM, D/s, Kink

Ask Page: Can He Force Me Into Mono/Poly Just Because He’s a Dominant?

July 2, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

I’m kind of new to this whole thing, being kinky and poly. Been talking to someone, and I have doubts. I would love to know if you could shed some light on them.

Talking to a guy right now, and he says that just because he’s a Dominant that he can go out with other submissives while he doesn’t even let me talk to other people. » Read more

BDSM, Kink

Ask Page: My Partner Only Dominates Me When It Suits Him. What Should I Do?

June 27, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

So I’m extremely new to BDSM, been around for just under a year. My question for you is what advice do you have for a naturally submissive person that wants to be dominated but has a partner (that I’ve been with for 6 years) that only dominates when it suits him? » Read more

Advice Friend, BDSM, D/s, Kink, Kink 101

3 Differences Between a Dominant & Someone Who Just Uses it as an Excuse to Be Controlling

June 5, 2018 No Comments

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What is the difference between a dominant and someone who just uses it as an excuse to be controlling?

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1. Consent Is an Important Part of Dominance.

The bottom line is very simple: It boils down to consent.

A healthy D/s relationship happens between two people who are willing participants. » Read more

Advice Friend, D/s

Ask Page: How Do I Help My New Dominant Feel Special?

April 30, 2018 No Comments

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My husband and I are polyamorous. With my husband, Brett† , I co-parent, co-habitate, share finances, own businesses together. With one of my boyfriends, Dale† , I have a newish D/s dynamic that mimics some aspects of a Daddy Dom/little girl relationship.

Because the power exchange dynamic with Dale and I evolved from just bedroom play to something more serious, » Read more

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How My Power Exchange (D/s) Relationship Gave Me Courage

April 9, 2018 No Comments

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I’ll never forget my first public scene with Justin. It was on a busy night at the dungeon. A play party.

“What would you like to do?” he asked me.

I clammed up. “I don’t know,” I said.

“Page,” he said in that voice. His Dom voice, » Read more

D/s, Polyamory

How I Approach Polyamory While in a Power Exchange (D/s) Relationship

April 2, 2018 1 Comment

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I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, I find it super helpful. I have a question…you and Justin have a power exchange relationship, right? How does the fact that he owns you affect your other relationships? I’m in a similar situation and am curious how others handle it.

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This is a great question! » Read more

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