Over a decade ago, I plunged onto the kink scene. Once I make up my mind to pursue something, I let go exuberantly, some might say recklessly.
I tend to be rather cautious when I’m considering doing something new. I’m known to research and interview people and to spend quite a while thinking over the issues in question before pursuing it. » Read more
I write quite frequently about being a recovering people pleaser, including one piece I wrote for a client about the 10 biggest lessons I learned while recovering from people pleasing.
And yet… sometimes I feel like I’ve only scratched the surface in addressing how profoundly different my thinking was before I began to critically examine it. » Read more
Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature.
Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.
And check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:
Mental Health and My D/s Dynamics
I believe that BDSM can be very healing, » Read more
I’ve been struggling with something for a while now and need advice and support from someone who might understand.
Here’s the situation: I’m married to a vanilla guy I love a lot. He knows I’m a sub and that I have a Domme. I’ve been with my Domme for several years. » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for about a year now. It’s my favorite one. Thank you for writing every day, for being there. I’ve read that you struggle with confidence, but you don’t need to. Never stop writing!
I discovered you through my friends on the kink scene (who call you “Page the sage” » Read more
I’m kind of new to this whole thing, being kinky and poly. Been talking to someone, and I have doubts. I would love to know if you could shed some light on them.
Talking to a guy right now, and he says that just because he’s a Dominant that he can go out with other submissives while he doesn’t even let me talk to other people. » Read more
So I’m extremely new to BDSM, been around for just under a year. My question for you is what advice do you have for a naturally submissive person that wants to be dominated but has a partner (that I’ve been with for 6 years) that only dominates when it suits him? » Read more
What is the difference between a dominant and someone who just uses it as an excuse to be controlling?
1. Consent Is an Important Part of Dominance.
The bottom line is very simple: It boils down to consent.
A healthy D/s relationship happens between two people who are willing participants. » Read more
My husband and I are polyamorous. With my husband, Brett† , I co-parent, co-habitate, share finances, own businesses together. With one of my boyfriends, Dale† , I have a newish D/s dynamic that mimics some aspects of a Daddy Dom/little girl relationship.
Because the power exchange dynamic with Dale and I evolved from just bedroom play to something more serious, » Read more
I’ll never forget my first public scene with Justin. It was on a busy night at the dungeon. A play party.
“What would you like to do?” he asked me.
I clammed up. “I don’t know,” I said.
“Page,” he said in that voice. His Dom voice, » Read more