In polyamorous circles, hierarchy can sometimes be a dirty word, depending on your audience.
Some folks will get offended at even the mere mention of the word. “I don’t believe in hierarchy,” they’ll say. “It’s always unethical. Always.”
And typically, they’ll stick to this position no matter what anyone else says to them. » Read more
I heard you talking on a podcast saying that you used to have three primaries. How is that even possible? I thought you could only have one.
And I was wondering about something else: I always thought that primary and secondary were terms used for comparison. » Read more
I’ve been polyamorous for a decent amount of time now. I love your blog and your books. Thank you for all the time you put into them. I wanted to write to you because I feel like you won’t judge me (something I can’t say for every poly expert out there). » Read more
PQ 11.7 — Will the term secondary be applied to my relationship, and if so, do I understand how the primary couple is defining the word? Am I comfortable with the definition?
A new thread appears in one of the poly discussion groups I’m in. Asking people for their input on what the terms “primary” » Read more
PQ 9.11 — Do I feel that my partner considers me inferior to him or his other partners?
“I wasn’t sure who… you were with,” the new girl says hesitantly, with a gentle emphasis on the last word. Her eyes dart from Skyspook to CC and back again. » Read more
After a long and exhaustive search chasing dead ends, you finally land a new job that you’re excited about.
The company culture is fantastic. The benefits are great. And it pays pretty well… except, well, it’s entry level. You’re in the right field, but it’s not what you dream of doing.
No problem, » Read more