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What Is Fraysexuality?

March 29, 2019 No Comments

the end of a green rope that is fraying — Image by Neal Fowler / CC BY

I previously posted an article that recounted a conversation I had with a friend about megasexuality (not feeling a romantic connection with someone unless there’s a strong sexual connection in place), which my friend referred to as the opposite of demisexuality (not experiencing sexual attraction until an emotional connection is formed).

Interestingly, » Read more

D/s, Kink, Polyamory

Why Don’t You Beat Me Anymore?: Of BDSM and Dead Bedrooms

February 15, 2018 6 Comments

a drawing of a pair of legs wearing high heels on a yellow and green staircase looking entity all superimposed over an orange-red background — Image by Pedro Ribeiro Simões / CC BY

“Ow,” I say. “What the FUCK are you doing?”

He smirks at me.

“I’m not kidding,” I say. “Stop that.”

He pulls away from me. “Pressure point stuff. You like it, don’t you?”

“Not like that I don’t,” I say. “What is wrong with you tonight?” » Read more