Higher Emoji Use Linked to More First Dates and More Romantic and Sexual Activity

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I don’t do much online dating. This is because I don’t enjoy the process. I tend to like to get to know people in person, establish friendships, and possibly date down the road once I’ve had time and opportunity to see how they treat people in general, not just when they’re dating others. (I’m glad I haven’t had the desire to date during COVID-19 because my normal way of doing things is impossibly dangerous at the moment.)

But I have done a little online dating,  » Read more

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I Find Reliable, Passionate, & Considerate People So Swoonworthy

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I’ve been talking to a friend who’s filling out profiles for matchmaking services. I haven’t done that myself too much. Haven’t really done much online dating either. I’ve tried that a few times for short periods of time, but I hated the experience so much I’ve mostly met people other ways. For me that’s been occasionally through in-person meetups but primarily via friends of friends.  » Read more

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Don’t “Lower” Your Dating Standards. Examine Them.

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Look, I’ll just say it. Some people are really bad at picking romantic partners. What drives interpersonal attraction is often mysterious, hard to pin down. Perhaps it’s pheromones. Maybe it’s something within our genes deciding that we’d make good offspring with THAT PERSON OVER THERE (a phenomenon that strangely occurs even when it’s not biologically possible to bear children with a partner for whatever reason).  » Read more

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Proofreading Your Dating Profile Could Make You More Attractive…But Only to Certain People

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Since I’ve studied linguistics and particularly have enjoyed psycholinguistics (a field of study sometimes also known as the psychology of language), I am not one of those people who fly around everywhere correcting everyone else’s grammar.

I’m instead more interested in how language is used in everyday life (whether or not that lines up with the correct way to structure communication).  » Read more

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Beware of People Who Date Like Irresponsible Pet Owners

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One of the hardest lessons I ever had to learn was that there are people out there who don’t treat other people like they’re people. Instead, they treat them like pets.

And not the way that a responsible pet owner would.

Instead, they’re more like those people who get a pet thinking it’ll be fun to have something cute live with them.  » Read more

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Yikes! Apparently A Third of Women Have Dated Men Just for the Free Food.

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As I wrote in the last installment of this series, science’s role is to test hypotheses and uncover the truth. Sometimes this uncovered truth is surprising. Other times it’s a big duh, “Well thanks for the info, Captain Obvious” kind of moment.

Frankly, reality doesn’t care as much about our biases as we do.  » Read more

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