I’ve been thinking lately that I’d like to try dating a couple. Should be easy, right? There are a million of them out there looking for a partner. But that’s the whole problem. Quantity doesn’t mean quality. Still, I have seen happy triads, and I know I want that’s what I want for myself. » Read more
Whenever possible, I try to offer advice that applies to all sorts of relationships, whether that’s polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between. And when I’m advising polyamorous folks in particular, I do my best to offer advice that will apply to people in a range of different relationship configurations. Not just help for secondaries, » Read more
“I was really happy to hear that you guys opened back up,” she says.
“To tell the truth, I’ve thought for ages that you’d be amazing to date.”
“Oh?” I say. “I never knew you felt that way about me.”
“Well, not just you,” she says. » Read more
My first crush was on Jeff Goldblum and Geena Davis.
Yes. Both of them. Not Jeff or Geena. Jeff and Geena.
Especially when they were married, during the Earth Girls Are Easy days (and yes, The Fly, but that movie gives me and most other sane peeps the heebie jeebies). » Read more
Cat Math: Two Plus Three Equals… Three
I once was friends with a guy who had five cats. “But really,” he said. “Having five cats is more like having three.”
“How do you figure?’ I asked, imagining the potential yowling in the middle of the night as his cats all fight for territory. » Read more
“Ugh,” she says. “More unicorn hunters. I hate unicorn hunters. Don’t they know that no self-respecting bisexual woman is willing to date a couple?”
I bite my tongue yet again, not sure if she remembers that I’ve dated couples. And not just one couple. » Read more
“I’m sorry. I fucked up,” I say. And in the next breath I’m sobbing. “I really fucked up,” I say, once I catch my breath.
“Yeah, you really did,” Skyspook says in the darkness. I can’t see his face, but I know he’s frowning.
He pauses for what seems like forever. » Read more
“Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills.”
Whatever You Do, Don’t Be a Ferengi
“Oh great,” my friend says. “Another married couple newly opened up. How original.”
I smile. But uncomfortably. Wondering if my friend judges me for my past. She’s solo poly, » Read more
It’s been great to touch base lately with some of my other partnered poly friends. My best friend Fluffy, while definitely polyamorous and possessing a very similar bent towards relationship anarchy as my own, has a hard time finding partners and hasn’t been in a relationship for a few years now. The spirit is willing, » Read more
“We’re a package deal,” the profile reads. “My man and I come together or not at all.”
The package deal is so common that it’s a cliché. A couple opens up, advertises for that magical third person to join them, a third with no needs, fears, or insecurities of her own that will come in, » Read more