How Do We Get Back to Okay?

a photograph of a sculpture in the desert at what appears to be sunrise (with large clouds in the background). Two wire frames of adults sitting with their backs turned to one another bent over in a despondent post. Within them are two solid child-shaped structures that are turned towards one another, symbolizing the inner child's desire to connect even during disagreement.
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My eyes are raw from crying. As I sit on the downstairs couch, I feel like there are bricks in my chest. If I think carefully through the last hour, I can actually retrace the series of statements that took us here. But he’s sitting upstairs in the bedroom angry and frustrated. Not in the mood to talk about anything.  » Read more

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PQ 4.7 — In what ways do I protect myself from being hurt? Do those strategies help or hinder my search for connection?

2 images: the top image is a picture of a hand held sideways with a red heart drawn on it. in the bottom picture, the fingers of the hand are spread apart, making it appears asa though the heart from the first image is broken into 4 pieces - text on the palm of the hand in both images says "you make me sick because I adore you so"
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PQ 4.7 — In what ways do I protect myself from being hurt? Do those strategies help or hinder my search for connection?

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I know it’s folly to forever wait for the punch. To flinch against blows that aren’t coming. On the off chance that they might.

And yet,  » Read more

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