The Difference Between a Rough Spot & a Bad Fit Is Like the Difference Between a Cold Day & a Cold Season

a snowy field in winter
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I moved to Dallas about five months ago. Prior to that, I’d always lived in cold places. I spent my childhood and my early adulthood in Central Maine, where snow fell six months out of the year, and while it did warm up a bit during the summer months, it never really got hot-hot.

And it certainly didn’t last.  » Read more

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How Do We Get Back to Okay?

a photograph of a sculpture in the desert at what appears to be sunrise (with large clouds in the background). Two wire frames of adults sitting with their backs turned to one another bent over in a despondent post. Within them are two solid child-shaped structures that are turned towards one another, symbolizing the inner child's desire to connect even during disagreement.
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My eyes are raw from crying. As I sit on the downstairs couch, I feel like there are bricks in my chest. If I think carefully through the last hour, I can actually retrace the series of statements that took us here. But he’s sitting upstairs in the bedroom angry and frustrated. Not in the mood to talk about anything.  » Read more

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