How Do We Get Back to Okay?

a photograph of a sculpture in the desert at what appears to be sunrise (with large clouds in the background). Two wire frames of adults sitting with their backs turned to one another bent over in a despondent post. Within them are two solid child-shaped structures that are turned towards one another, symbolizing the inner child's desire to connect even during disagreement.
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My eyes are raw from crying. As I sit on the downstairs couch, I feel like there are bricks in my chest. If I think carefully through the last hour, I can actually retrace the series of statements that took us here. But he’s sitting upstairs in the bedroom angry and frustrated. Not in the mood to talk about anything.  » Read more

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PQ 6.6 — Do I communicate authentically in ways that make me vulnerable?

a Siamese cat lying on its back on concrete with its tummy exposed in a very vulnerable position
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PQ 6.6 — Do I communicate authentically in ways that make me vulnerable?

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I’m often asked, especially by newly polyamorous folks, if it’s possible to get better at dealing with stress that comes from adjusting to it all. Can we make peace with unhelpful social scripts we’ve learned from a society that overwhelmingly tells us that monogamy is the only reasonable,  » Read more

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Ask Page: Dead Bedrooms, No Win-Win?

two separate beds with a lamp in the middle and paintings hanging on the wall
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Page, in your post on conflict resolution styles you forgot one thing about Collaborating. In my opinion: There’s not always a win-win solution. Like. I don’t think in that situation it automatically becomes Compromising. It’s just a conflict that can’t be resolved in a collaborative way.

It’s one of those drawbacks no one wants to believe is real.  » Read more

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