Hi Page, My compersion appears to be conditional. I’m not ashamed for this. I’m trying to acknowledge it and turn it around. Love shouldn’t be conditional… Read More »“When a Metamour Resents My Existence, I Feel My Compersion Begin to Die”
Compersion has a semi-exalted status in polyamorous circles. Simply stated, compersion (also known as confelicity or mudita) is delight in the happiness of others —… Read More »We Tend to Think More About Tasks That Are Unfinished
Whenever possible, I try to offer advice that applies to all sorts of relationships, whether that’s polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between. And when I’m… Read More »4 Things I’ve Found to Be True While Dating Polyamorously Regardless of Current Role
Cultivating Compersion Can Be a Helpful Distraction from the Pain of Tackling Jealousy and Insecurity.
“Ugh,” I say. “You okay?” he says. “Yeah, my neck just hurts.” I rub the sore muscle, frowning. “No biggie. It happens sometimes.” “Oh, mind… Read More »Cultivating Compersion Can Be a Helpful Distraction from the Pain of Tackling Jealousy and Insecurity.
“I’ll be right back,” I say to Justin and Eva as I leave our table at the jazz club to seek out the ladies’ room.… Read More »Visible Polyamory: A Public Display of Triad Affection
“Is it normal to get the hang of the compersion thing when it comes to romantic relationships? But struggle when it comes to your friends?”… Read More »Building Others Up: Attacking Zero Sum Thinking at Its Source
You might think polyamory is wonderful for folks who want to date a lot. And this is true. Predictably, a philosophy that espouses the practice… Read More »The Lost Art of Wingmanship: Matchmaking While Polyamorous
I have seen human beings who have forged “intellectual” armor to shield themselves from adversity. They seemed stronger than most. They said, “I couldn’t… Read More »Poly-Sensitive: Compersion, Jealousy, All the Feels
When you first start dating someone, everything is new and exciting. And then after a while, even a great relationship has a way of becoming routine.… Read More »7 Ways to Keep Love Alive and Make an Old Relationship Feel New
PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship? * I used to be a big checklist person when it came to… Read More »PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship?