They Like You. They Really, Really Like You.

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While I’m a generally sunny person with a positive temperament, I’m not immune to sadness. Self-doubt.

The timing of these slumps can be rather unpredictable. But the negative thoughts I experience? Well, those tend to fall into a few very predictable categories.

And when I’m down on myself, there’s one line of negative thinking that I tend to encounter over and over again: I start to think that no one likes me.  » Read more

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When Dealing With a Manipulative Person, Never JADE

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It’s one of the unfortunate realities of interpersonal communication: The way that you talk to people in healthy situations will cause major problems when you’re trying to talk to someone stuck in unhealthy dynamics. That’s because manipulative people with toxic personalities will hijack normal conversational maxims and norms and exploit them to their own ends.  » Read more

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I’m Communicosexual and Communicoromantic. Are You?

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Communicosexual (adjective): finding the ability to effectively communicate and hold enjoyable conversation sexually attractive or arousing

Communicoromantic (adjective): being romantically attracted to individuals with which one can have effective communication and enjoyable conversation

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When it comes to dating and love, I’m actually pretty flexible in my expectations. I’m open to dating all sorts of folks.  » Read more

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Managing Phone Etiquette With Multiple Partners Can Be Challenging

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It was kind of a running joke between all of us, back in the day. “Pete’s in three relationships, actually. He’s dating two women and he’s also obsessed with his phone.”

Because he was. It was pretty annoying when we were holding poker nights since he’d often become fixated on whatever texts he had coming in and would completely miss what was going on in the game.  » Read more

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When You Have to Interact With a Manipulative Person You’d Rather Avoid, Act Like a Gray Rock

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In a recent essay, I wrote about 10 things that I do that help me write openly about my life without going crazy in the process. After that article came out, I had several readers write back in response. One point in particular seemed to resonate with many folks, tip #6, in which I discuss how to deal with people who are trying to stir up conflict,  » Read more

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