commitment

What’s It Like to Fall Out of Love Over a Bad Haircut?

There’s an easy way to know when it’s time for my partner to cut his hair. I start telling him how nice it looks. There’s… Read More »What’s It Like to Fall Out of Love Over a Bad Haircut?

“You’re polyamorous?” she says. “Yes,” I say. “Does that surprise you?” “Sorta,” she says. “It’s just… I never thought of you as someone with a… Read More »Polyamory Isn’t a Fear of Commitment. It’s a Love of Commitment.

PQ 15.5 — How do I define “commitment”? Do my definitions leave room for nontraditional commitments and nontraditional relationship trajectories? * Here is a good example… Read More »PQ 15.5 — How do I define “commitment”? Do my definitions leave room for nontraditional commitments and nontraditional relationship trajectories?

PQ 15.3 — What assumptions do I make about commitments in my relationships? * We’re often blind to our own assumptions, at least until someone… Read More »PQ 15.3 — What assumptions do I make about commitments in my relationships?

PQ 15.1 –What are my existing commitments? How much time do they leave for new partners? * “How do you manage it all?” she… Read More »PQ 15.1 — What are my existing commitments? How much time do they leave for new partners?

PQ 9.2 — Am I being asked to consent to something in a way that I can’t later withdraw my consent? * 2004 It’s really… Read More »PQ 9.2 — Am I being asked to consent to something in a way that I can’t later withdraw my consent?

Polyamorous Controversy Over “Benefits” As readers responded to our recent post 7 Common Myths About Being Polyamorous on social media, one debunked myth quickly emerged as the… Read More »“That’s Not Poly”: Polyamorous Sex Negativity and the Relationship Escalator

“Have you written much about anchor partners?” he asks me. “Yeah, a few times,” I answer, thinking of this (on dating someone you’ve been with… Read More »Anchor Parenting and the Committed Poly Family

PQ 5.3 — What does “commitment” mean to me, and why? (see also 1.6) * Today’s question is strikingly similiar to PQ 1.6 (How do I… Read More »PQ 5.3 — What does “commitment” mean to me, and why?

It can be as overwhelming as it is freeing. Once you move away from the standard template of what romantic relationships are supposed to be, how… Read More »Relationship Escalator: Questioning How Love Ought to Be