I’ve had to come to terms with the reality that I have been taking the wrong advice in one arena.
One major thing I’ve learned is that there’s a huge difference between actively and passively closing a relationship. Of the two, active closings typically cause a lot more collateral damage.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but good relationships can have problems.
“Well, duh, Page,” some of you might be saying. “Why are you devoting an article to this? Isn’t this common sense?”
You would think, I suppose. But no.
Turns out that there’s another way that breaking up with someone can really throw us for a loop: It can result in identity confusion.
“It just occurred to me that I’ll never be able to watch that show again. That one character reminds me too much of him, and it’s just going to make me sad,” she confesses to me. “I can’t listen to our song. Forget about going back to that restaurant — our place. Our favorite place. So many things are ruined by everything going to hell with him, y’know?”
I want a love that lets me stay clear eyed. One that lets me hold onto my identity. And stay grounded to the truth.
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