“You wouldn’t leave someone with cancer,” he said.
She blinked, not quite sure she was hearing what she was hearing. “What does that have to do with anything?”
“You’re breaking up with me because I have depression,” he said. “That’s wrong. Not only is it wrong, it’s cruel. I never thought you were someone who would do something like that. » Read more
I went through a breakup a while back that went exactly as planned. Because we talked about how we’d like to break up at the very beginning. Ideally what we’d both want from the other should things end.
When we ran out of road, I knew exactly how he wanted me to tell him. » Read more
She’s doing it again. Beating herself up. We’ve been friends for a while now, and while I enjoy many things about her, her tendency to beat herself up over and over again about things that aren’t her fault? Well, let’s say it doesn’t make the Top 10 list of reasons I like her.
But there’s plenty of other stuff on that list, » Read more
One woman pushed hard for labels.
The other didn’t even want to go there. Wasn’t looking for anything serious, she said.
They sounded like they were looking for drastically different things. And yet they both dropped off the face of the earth so easily.
One abruptly sent a breakup text full of cliches — » Read more
“I’ve pretty much always been the one broken up with,” she says. “And you know, it’s been easy to feel defective because of that.”
“Because you’re the one being dumped and not the person doing the dumping?” I ask.
“Yes,” she says.
In a way, I know what she means, » Read more
I recently published an article called “Why Do Some People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone For a Long Time & Then Never Do It?”
In that essay, I talked about some reasons I’d heard from others or seen in action that could be potential answers to that question:
- A fear of change
- A fear of being single and/or having to date again (i.e.,
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Why do people say they want to break up with someone for a year plus but never do it? a friend asks in a Facebook status.
The answers flood in. Some say that being single sucks and a bad relationship could be preferable to it. Others take the position that it could be an aversion to dating new people and all the stress and confusion that comes with it. » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for a while. Part of why I’m writing to you is that I’ve loved your articles on breakups. I’m hoping you can help me because I just had the world’s weirdest breakup.
I’d been seeing this guy for a little bit, » Read more
January is almost over. It has frankly been a pretty rough month, all told. The polar vortex has settled down here in Cleveland (where I live), bringing with it the brutal cold. Lake effect decided to be a pal and dump a heavy blanket of snow. I was sick for most of the month with a rotten upper respiratory infection. » Read more
Having gone through plenty of breakups myself, I can tell you firsthand that they can be a real bummer. Whether you were dumped or the one who initiated it. And even when it’s mutual.
When it’s over, it can be easy to question yourself. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people wonder post-breakup: Was I really in love? » Read more