You’re Likely to Weight Your Introduction to Something Far More Than You Should

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It can be kind of annoying sometimes, and humbling, but the truth is that the human brain is calibrated for speed, not accuracy.

It makes sense when you think of it from an evolutionary perspective. Snap decisions are crucial in survival settings. If you’re being chased by a predator, it’s more important that you react quickly.  » Read more

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The IKEA Effect: We Love Things More That We Personally Built

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By now, practically everyone has heard of IKEA, thanks to their increasingly expanding set of stores as well as Jonathan Coulton’s excellent tribute song to them. (“Billy the bookcase says hello” by the way.) And anyone who has any firsthand experience with IKEA knows that while they offer timeless modernist style at scandalous prices, it also comes with a time commitment.  » Read more

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Why It Can Be Difficult to Trust People, Even When They Believe What They Say

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The more you know about bias and how deeply it’s entrenched in our brains, the more it becomes truly difficult to trust other people. How they will treat us. If what they say to us is true…

Unfortunately, we’re all capable of saying untrue things, regardless of any moral commitment to truthfulness. Contrary to what a lot of people think,  » Read more

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When “Problematic” Becomes Problematic: Identity Assumptions, Dissonance, and Confessions

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Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:

Finding Something Problematic Tells Me More About You

As someone who does the delicate dance between the worlds of social justice and diversity and inclusion,  » Read more

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It’s Humbling to Realize We Do Not See Things As They Really Are, But We Don’t

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“The brain is designed with blind spots, optical and psychological, and one of its cleverest tricks is to confer on us the comforting illusion that we, personally, do not have any…’naive realism’ [is] the inescapable conviction that we perceive objects and events clearly, ‘as they really are. ‘ We assume that other reasonable people see things the same way we do.  » Read more

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They Like You. They Really, Really Like You.

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While I’m a generally sunny person with a positive temperament, I’m not immune to sadness. Self-doubt.

The timing of these slumps can be rather unpredictable. But the negative thoughts I experience? Well, those tend to fall into a few very predictable categories.

And when I’m down on myself, there’s one line of negative thinking that I tend to encounter over and over again: I start to think that no one likes me.  » Read more

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Love Is Basically Bias, So What Can You Do?

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Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Here are the other articles they’ve written for us:

    1. I’m Too Anxious to Be Jealous
    2. Everything I’ve Ever Learned About Non-Monogamy My Puppy Taught Me All Over Again 
    3. Is There a Right Time or Way to Break Up a Relationship?
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Humans Are Awfully Good at Splitting Ourselves Into Teams & Kicking Up a Giant Fuss About It

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“If you’re not with us, you’re against us,” some folks like to say.

Ah, the old Us and Them. That age old story of human conflict. We’re awfully good at splitting ourselves into teams based on perceived similarity and difference and then kicking up a giant fuss about it.

Really, really good.  » Read more

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I Disliked Them the Moment I Met Them: Transference and Jealousy

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Sometimes we meet someone, and for no clear reason, we dislike them instantly. Or we’re incredibly jealous of them. Sometimes it’s both.

We do not come into relationships unbiased. Instead, we enter them as a collection of all of our life experiences. And those we vicariously witness. Through the lives of those close to us.  » Read more

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