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Another Way of Looking at Slut Shaming: “Stop Working So Hard, They’ll Expect the Rest of Us to Do It, Too”

January 11, 2018 No Comments

A muddy rubber boot with a flower growing out of it. The boot seems to be sitting on a tree stump in the middle of a forest. — Image by Buddhike de Silva / CC BY

[Please note that I wrote a follow-up post to this one: For the record, I think slut shaming is bad.]

I was raised in a house where work ethic was lauded as the highest virtue. My father was away for weeks at a time on work trips. When he was in town, » Read more

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Distressed by Another’s Jealousy: How to Deal With Guilt From Hurting a Partner

May 1, 2017 5 Comments

a very sad looking character made of marshmallows. they have little hands made from white thumbtacks. — Image by Maryam Abdulghaffar / CC BY

I enjoy and follow your writings and the recent one about how to know your partner is jealous and not just inventing a concern reminded me that I’ve been trying to find some info on how to deal with it when a partner is jealous.

More specifically, how do I not have anxious and guilty feelings, » Read more