“I think the worst thing about my ex,” she says. “Wasn’t that he treated me badly. He was actually pretty good to me.”
I nod. “It always seemed that way, from the outside.”
“It was that he didn’t treat me any better than anyone else,” she says.
“Are you talking about his other partners? » Read more
PQ 3.5 — Am I imposing consequences that will make others feel unsafe saying no to me?
When I first started talking with Rob, I knew that he and his wife Michelle had been polyamorous for about 8 years. I myself had only been at it a year. Although it had been a truly exciting year. » Read more
How does a person who is polyamorous in spirit end up not seeking other partners for a great length of time, essentially becoming monogamous in practice?
To put it mildly, I was party to some truly bad poly. And despite whose “fault” you think the whole thing was when the dust settled (I personally believe we all fucked up to varying degrees), » Read more
And in hindsight, that should have told me something. “She doesn’t have to know how serious we are yet. She just wouldn’t understand.”
I thought it was romantic that he would lie to her by omission. That we’d have little secrets that only the two of us would know. I thought they were harmless and bred intimacy. » Read more