I want a love that lets me stay clear eyed. One that lets me hold onto my identity. And stay grounded to the truth.
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you,… Read More »Agency and Autonomy (or Lack Thereof) in Partnering and Parenting
It’s a balance I’m yet to master, how to be attached just the right amount and in the just the right ways. I’m used to… Read More »It’s Not Easy to Balance Attachment and Autonomy
Unfortunately, there’s no shortage of people who will judge you based on what your partner does — or doesn’t do. I noticed this when I… Read More »The Paternalization of Marriage: “You Need to Make Your Husband Do X,” “Get Your Wife to Do Y”
“We finish each other’s–” “Sandwiches.” –Arrested Development (and later, Frozen) * Have you ever been so close to someone that you knew what they were going… Read More »It’s Possible to Be So Close to Another Person That You Start *Thinking* Together
Folks who are in emotional crumple zones are the ones others worry the least about upsetting or hurting. Not because they don’t have feelings. And… Read More »I’ve Made a Conscious Decision Not to Prize the Squeaky Wheel Over the One With Quieter Problems
Hi Page, Thank you for your blog. It’s really awesome. I was wondering if you have written any pieces about solo polyamory and what your… Read More »Solo Polyamory Raises Important Questions That I’m Glad to Hear People Asking
Hello Page, First of all, I want to thank you so much for your blog! I take a lot of support and encouragement from your… Read More »The Overstressed Hinge: Stuck in the Middle & Playing Tom-Toms
Recently, my nesting partner Justin decided to switch over to a low-fat diet. Since I normally serve as the official meal planner for our house,… Read More »It’s Freeing to Do Your Own Thing, Even When You’re Very Committed to Someone Else
PQ 16.9– Do I support my partners’ relationships with one another in ways that respect their agency and right to choose their level of intimacy?
PQ 16.9– Do I support my partners’ relationships with one another in ways that respect their agency and right to choose their level of intimacy?… Read More »PQ 16.9– Do I support my partners’ relationships with one another in ways that respect their agency and right to choose their level of intimacy?