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I Hate How Much I’d Miss You If We Couldn’t Be Together Anymore
Sometimes I get really frustrated… because I like you so much more than I planned to.
I Struggle A Lot With “Outsider Feelings” Even When People Get Close to Me
I struggle a lot with “outsider feelings” even when people get close to me. Will they go away completely one day? I have no way to tell. The important thing is that I don’t let them rule my life.
I’m Amazed That You Always See Me in Your Future
It seems too good to be true, that you’ll still want me in your life 10 or 20 years from now. But not to you.
I Used to Be So Scared When You Did Nice Things for Me
I used to feel so much terror every time you did something nice for me. Because I already didn’t feel like I deserved you. And that you were too good for me.
Confession: I’m Glad I Didn’t Know What Changing Would Cost Me
I’m glad I didn’t know how much changing my life would cost me. This way I learned a lesson that would have terrified me if I’d had too much warning.
Identity Confusion Drives People to Get Back With Their Exes
Turns out that there’s another way that breaking up with someone can really throw us for a loop: It can result in identity confusion.
Lack of Intimacy Predicts Breakups. Attachment Insecurity Doesn’t.
Why do people break up? If we were to take direction from movies and TV in answering this question, it would be reasonable to assume… Read More »Lack of Intimacy Predicts Breakups. Attachment Insecurity Doesn’t.
I’m Waiting for Despair to Transform Into Something Else
My father passed away six weeks ago. The first time I typed out that sentence, I accidentally wrote, “My father passed away six years ago.”… Read More »I’m Waiting for Despair to Transform Into Something Else
Can People Who Want to Change Their Attachment Style Do So?
I’ve written quite a few times on this website about attachment styles. As I’ve written in those previous posts, perhaps the biggest lesson of all in child… Read More »Can People Who Want to Change Their Attachment Style Do So?