My partner and I are happily married, and have been doing some relationship introspection. Have you ever come across or heard about a successful married relationship where one partner is polyamorous while the other is on the Ace spectrum?
A few quick clarifications for readers who might want/need them before I answer today’s question:
Ace/ace = shorthand for asexual
allosexual = not on the asexual spectrum and/or not asexual
Personal disclosure: I am allosexual, » Read more
A lot of people assume that this idea that polyamory is about having loving, committed relationships is all a bunch of hooey.
Secretly, they argue, deep down inside, all polyamorists are looking for is sex. It’s about the sex. The ease of having more access to greater sexual variety. And the ability to have super adventurous experiences like orgies. » Read more
Today’s article is an anonymous guest letter from a reader. Enjoy!
Dear Poly Land,
Sharing with the air, because I’m sure there must be someone here in Poly Land who needs to know they are not alone.
I went 13 years without having a second date. » Read more
So I’m extremely new to BDSM, been around for just under a year. My question for you is what advice do you have for a naturally submissive person that wants to be dominated but has a partner (that I’ve been with for 6 years) that only dominates when it suits him? » Read more
PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?
No, sex isn’t a mandatory part of an intimate relationship with me. » Read more
I really enjoyed your recent post on viewing monogamy and polyamory as a spectrum. It made me realize I don’t know a lot about mono/poly. What are some common reasons people are in mono/poly relationships? Can it work? Can it be fair? Or does the monogamous person just suffer all the time? » Read more
I recently stumbled across a post from Poly Talk called “Is Solo Polyamory Ableist?”
In the piece, Codi Coday asserts that solo polyamory as a relationship style is inaccessible and ableist, i.e., that it is discriminatory against individuals who are not able-bodied.
Quite a statement.
I wasn’t quite sure what to make of it, » Read more
Hype Is Short for Hypersexual
Hey there, I’m hype. That’s short for hypersexual.
You may be familiar with folks who are ace, which is short for asexual. Asexuality awareness has really taken off in recent years, which is a fantastic thing. In basic terms, people who are asexual have no sexual feelings or desire. » Read more