asexuality Archives

There Are Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know

January 31, 2019 3 Comments

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A lot of people assume that this idea that polyamory is about having loving, committed relationships is all a bunch of hooey.

Secretly, they argue, deep down inside, all polyamorists are looking for is sex. It’s about the sex. The ease of having more access to greater sexual variety. And the ability to have super adventurous experiences like orgies. » Read more

Guest Blog Post, Sexual Orientation

Confessions of a Hypogender, Graysexual, Demiro, Queer Secondary

December 26, 2018 1 Comment

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Today’s article is an anonymous guest letter from a reader. Enjoy!

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Dear Poly Land,

Sharing with the air, because I’m sure there must be someone here in Poly Land who needs to know they are not alone.

I went 13 years without having a second date. » Read more

BDSM, Kink

Ask Page: My Partner Only Dominates Me When It Suits Him. What Should I Do?

June 27, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

So I’m extremely new to BDSM, been around for just under a year. My question for you is what advice do you have for a naturally submissive person that wants to be dominated but has a partner (that I’ve been with for 6 years) that only dominates when it suits him? » Read more

PQ Series

PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?

May 13, 2018 1 Comment

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PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?

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No, sex isn’t a mandatory part of an intimate relationship with me. » Read more

Poly 101, Poly/Mono

What’s Mono/Poly?: A Basic Introduction

April 26, 2017 1 Comment

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I really enjoyed your recent post on viewing monogamy and polyamory as a spectrum. It made me realize I don’t know a lot about mono/poly. What are some common reasons people are in mono/poly relationships? Can it work? Can it be fair? Or does the monogamous person just suffer all the time? » Read more

Guest Blog Post

Is Solo Polyamory Ableist?: A Readers’ Response Discussion

March 14, 2017 2 Comments

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I recently stumbled across a post from Poly Talk called “Is Solo Polyamory Ableist?”

In the piece, Codi Coday asserts that solo polyamory as a relationship style is inaccessible and ableist, i.e., that it is discriminatory against individuals who are not able-bodied.

Quite a statement.

I wasn’t quite sure what to make of it, » Read more

Polyamory, Sexual Orientation

So You Think You’re Hypersexual: Living Up to the Hype

December 16, 2016 6 Comments

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Hype Is Short for Hypersexual

Hey there, I’m hype. That’s short for hypersexual.

You may be familiar with folks who are ace, which is short for asexual. Asexuality awareness has really taken off in recent years, which is a fantastic thing. In basic terms, people who are asexual have no sexual feelings or desire. » Read more