Even though I recently tested as securely attached, I bear all the hallmarks of someone who spent my earliest years in intimate relationships anxiously attached. In my own case, this owed to some abandonment issues.
Abandonment issues aren’t all that rare. They’re more common than a lot of people realize. » Read more
I recently covered a study on pronoun use and attachment styles for Psyched for the Weekend, a recurring feature in which I geek out with brief takes about some of my favorite psychological studies and concepts.
As part of that article, I posted a quiz that you can take to discover your own attachment style. » Read more
“I’m not gonna text them,” I say, clutching my phone.
My phone says nothing back, but I persist in talking to it.
“It’s too soon. I just texted an hour ago,” I continue.
But I’m staring at something funny online, something they’ll love. Tied into a thousand private jokes. » Read more
I wrote recently about attachment styles and how they come into play during relationships. In that post, I mentioned that the most difficult combination occurs when a person with anxious attachment is in a relationship with someone whose attachment style is avoidant. Anxious types, fueled by an insatiable emotional hunger, seek that closeness from their avoidant partner, » Read more