I love your page and have read all of your books. I had a question. I keep seeing people talking about something called an “anchor partner.” I searched here on the site and found a couple of posts that talk about anchor partners but nothing on what the term meant. » Read more
“If you asked most people whether they believed in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could. » Read more
“What’s to say that you won’t run off to Vegas with the first woman you meet who has potential to be a primary?” I say.
CC smiles. “Vegas is tacky, and I avoid that place.”
I nod. “Musty carpets, that’s what I remember about Vegas.”
“I’m very in the moment right now,” » Read more
When I opened up a relationship that had been monogamous for 8 years, I was prepared to feel jealous. But what I wasn’t prepared for? The radical shift in my thinking about that relationship. We both became much more autonomous. And it was a large adjustment getting used to our increased autonomy.
Prior to discovering polyamory, » Read more
“I could never share my partner,” she says. “I mean, if you really love someone, you want to spend all of your time with them.”
Except it’s not really like that.
Most people can’t spend all of their time together.
It’s very common for monogamous couples to spend time apart. » Read more
“Have you written much about anchor partners?” he asks me.
“Yeah, a few times,” I answer, thinking of this (on dating someone you’ve been with a while) and this (7 ways to make an old relationship feel new).
We’re commiserating on how little room there is in our lives for anything new and serious. » Read more