The Key to Effective Self-Help Is Knowing Where You Are, Relative to the Advice

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“It’s really easy to find self-help advice nowadays,” she says. “It’s all over the Internet.”

I nod. “Sure is. I even write some myself.”

“That must be a real trip,” she says. “Just putting it out there and seeing how it’s applied.”

“It can be,” I say. “It does help that I don’t know most of my readership personally.  » Read more

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Why It’s So Tough to Write About Problems in Public

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I’m talking with a friend who, like me, has been blogging off and on for years. Recently, she just had her first viral hit.

Viral, of course, is a relative term. There are the modest successes that can feel viral when you’re used to basic obscurity. Perhaps you have a few thousand people visiting your site overnight all looking at the same article,  » Read more

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Ask Page: I Thought Confidence Was Supposed To Be Attractive, Why Is It Turning Me Off?

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My partner recently lost a lot of weight. He’s been trying for years, and I’m genuinely happy for him. He looks great. Problem is that he KNOWS it. I’m all for self-confidence, but he’s downright cocky. Rude. It’s gotten to the point that friends of ours have started to comment on how much he’s changed…  » Read more

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