Why It’s Hard to Get Advice When You’re Looking for Validation

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After a protracted period of soul searching and agonizing, I decided to share my feelings with him. I thought about how to phrase it. And then I went for it.

And in response he offered, “For one, you feel like that with me, too, and still isn’t true there. For two, not much I could help with except to say that most people like that you’re a bit pushy with your feelings.  » Read more

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“I’m in Love With My Domme, But She Doesn’t Love Me Back. What Should I Do?”

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Hi Page,

I’ve been struggling with something for a while now and need advice and support from someone who might understand.

Here’s the situation: I’m married to a vanilla guy I love a lot. He knows I’m a sub and that I have a Domme. I’ve been with my Domme for several years.  » Read more

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The Key to Effective Self-Help Is Knowing Where You Are, Relative to the Advice

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“It’s really easy to find self-help advice nowadays,” she says. “It’s all over the Internet.”

I nod. “Sure is. I even write some myself.”

“That must be a real trip,” she says. “Just putting it out there and seeing how it’s applied.”

“It can be,” I say. “It does help that I don’t know most of my readership personally.  » Read more

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Why It’s So Tough to Write About Problems in Public

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I’m talking with a friend who, like me, has been blogging off and on for years. Recently, she just had her first viral hit.

Viral, of course, is a relative term. There are the modest successes that can feel viral when you’re used to basic obscurity. Perhaps you have a few thousand people visiting your site overnight all looking at the same article,  » Read more

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