A Lot of Behavior Generally Pleases Reasonable People But Only Manages Difficult People

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It is always happening whenever I talk to my mother.

She’ll say something petty and ungrateful. Someone will have done something nice for her. Something that was clearly well intended. Came from a good place. But because the gesture wasn’t perfect, wasn’t what she would have envisioned in the best of all possible worlds,  » Read more

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That Moment When You Realize You’ve Grown Apart From Someone

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“I am so upset with them,” I say, confiding in a friend.

“What did they do this time?” my friend asks. Because this is far from their first rodeo as far as this long-term friend of mine is concerned. Where once upon a time, we were truly close, there have been a series of unbelievably disappointing occurrences over the past several years.  » Read more

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Why It’s Hard to Get Advice When You’re Looking for Validation

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After a protracted period of soul searching and agonizing, I decided to share my feelings with him. I thought about how to phrase it. And then I went for it.

And in response he offered, “For one, you feel like that with me, too, and still isn’t true there. For two, not much I could help with except to say that most people like that you’re a bit pushy with your feelings.  » Read more

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“I’m in Love With My Domme, But She Doesn’t Love Me Back. What Should I Do?”

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Hi Page,

I’ve been struggling with something for a while now and need advice and support from someone who might understand.

Here’s the situation: I’m married to a vanilla guy I love a lot. He knows I’m a sub and that I have a Domme. I’ve been with my Domme for several years.  » Read more

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The Key to Effective Self-Help Is Knowing Where You Are, Relative to the Advice

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“It’s really easy to find self-help advice nowadays,” she says. “It’s all over the Internet.”

I nod. “Sure is. I even write some myself.”

“That must be a real trip,” she says. “Just putting it out there and seeing how it’s applied.”

“It can be,” I say. “It does help that I don’t know most of my readership personally.  » Read more

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