People Pleasing & Poly: Resentment and Broken Promises
“I’m a people pleaser,” they say. “I can’t help myself. When I see someone wants something, I have to give it to them. I need… Read More »People Pleasing & Poly: Resentment and Broken Promises
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I Think I Figured Out Why Other People Think I’m Competitive
For me, pushing myself was never really about besting the other people. I think I learned somewhere along the way that love is something you earn by being useful to other people — doing things for them, making them look good, pleasing them somehow.
A Lot of Behavior Generally Pleases Reasonable People But Only Manages Difficult People
It is always happening whenever I talk to my mother. She’ll say something petty and ungrateful. Someone will have done something nice for her. Something… Read More »A Lot of Behavior Generally Pleases Reasonable People But Only Manages Difficult People
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale
I’ve been having a fun time writing these essays about being a recovering people pleaser. Here are the first two I wrote. 11/25/2019 – Discovering… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher
I write quite frequently about being a recovering people pleaser, including one piece I wrote for a client about the 10 biggest lessons I learned… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher
Fight, Flight, Freeze… Fawn?: Responding to Danger by Becoming a People Pleaser
Many long-time readers of the blog know that I identify as a recovering people pleaser. It’s been a long road to recovery, bolstered by an… Read More »Fight, Flight, Freeze… Fawn?: Responding to Danger by Becoming a People Pleaser
Setting Healthy Boundaries Without Shutting People Out Entirely Is Like Helping Someone Study But Not Letting Them Plagiarize
Hi Page, I hear a lot of talk about how it’s important to set healthy boundaries. And while I was initially very skeptical of this… Read More »Setting Healthy Boundaries Without Shutting People Out Entirely Is Like Helping Someone Study But Not Letting Them Plagiarize
It’s Okay to Care What Other People Think of You — But Be Specific
I had an ex who once told me, “The only thing that’s wrong with you is that you think there’s something wrong with you. You… Read More »It’s Okay to Care What Other People Think of You — But Be Specific
Any Particular Person: On Growing Up Catering to Difficult People
Born with a Target on My Back I wasn’t allowed to be particular. Growing up, only two people in my family were allowed to be particular.… Read More »Any Particular Person: On Growing Up Catering to Difficult People
PQ 8.4 — Do I feel that most other people are sexier, more good-looking, more worthwhile, funnier, smarter or just generally better than I am, and I am not able to compete with them?
PQ 8.4 — Do I feel that most other people are sexier, more good-looking, more worthwhile, funnier, smarter or just generally better than I am, and… Read More »PQ 8.4 — Do I feel that most other people are sexier, more good-looking, more worthwhile, funnier, smarter or just generally better than I am, and I am not able to compete with them?
