“I’ve never loved him because he was perfect. I love him because he’s interesting.”
This is something I remember feeling and expressing about a former love interest, brought up by working on the book. My feelings for him were intense, verging on (and some would say well past) the brink of absurdity.
That relationship was never even physically “consummated” » Read more
The first surprise I’m discovering as I study psychology is how much energy, work, and just plain basic structure is devoted to the study of processes that are not in any way, shape, or form considered disease states – elements like the basic nature of cognition, the wealth of different systems used to describe, explain, » Read more
This will probably not read like a normal one of my writings because I am too excited to take the time to actually sort through and collect my thoughts and make sure they sound how I like them to, as I’m wont to. I’m a stickler for a style of prosody that I’ve grown to employ, » Read more
One of my best friends (activist, poet, essayist, musician, diversity scholar, and in general a lovely human being) wrote an EXCELLENT post about consent. I got permission to repost it here because it is well worth the read:
Consent Culture is Hard, Yo..
Consent Culture is Hard, Yo.
Posted on August 16, » Read more
“Be careful going back to school. Don’t get in with the wrong people! You’ve got such a good thing going with your man. Don’t fall in with the wrong crowd.”
If only she knew what we do on the weekend, the characters we hang out with, the leather daddies,the perverts, the thrill seekers, » Read more
Relating to or characteristic of a slave, typically by servility or submissiveness.
Showing no attempt at originality, constructive interpretation, or development.
Definition number 2 makes me sad. Sad because it’s not just a connotation limited to the dictionary. » Read more
You come to a fork in the road. One way leads to safety, and the other way to death. One liar and one truth-teller are there (you can’t tell them apart) and you only have time to ask one question. What will you ask and which road will you take?
Answer: “Which road would the other person take?” » Read more
About 40 pounds into my weight loss journey, I had a friend compliment my progress and ask me what my goal was.
I thought a moment and replied, “I want to be out of my league.”
She laughed, but it was true. I was polyamorous, in an open marriage in a rural area where such an arrangement was a rarity. » Read more
“Both suffering for love and being addicted to a relationship are romanticized by our culture… Very few models exist of people relating as peers in healthy, mature, honest, nonmanipulative, and nonexploitative ways, probably for two reasons: First, in all honesty, such relationships in real life are fairly rare. Second, since the quality of emotional interplay in healthy relationships is often much subtler than the blatant drama of unhealthy relationships, » Read more
I have a secret. I love to be alone.
For anyone who knows me in everyday life, this may come as a bit of a shock. After all, I’m friendly, chatty, outgoing, in many ways your basic socialite.
This doesn’t mean that social interactions don’t drain me, however. They do. I’m very sensitive to other people’s emotions, » Read more