Things That Make Me Go Hmmm…..

slav·ish/ˈslāviSH/

Adjective:

  1. Relating to or characteristic of a slave, typically by servility or submissiveness.

  2. Showing no attempt at originality, constructive interpretation, or development.

Definition number 2 makes me sad.  Sad because it’s not just a connotation limited to the dictionary.   » Read more

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Pinocchio

A riddle:

You come to a fork in the road. One way leads to safety, and the other way to death. One liar and one truth-teller are there (you can’t tell them apart) and you only have time to ask one question. What will you ask and which road will you take?

Answer: “Which road would the other person take?”  » Read more

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“Both suffering for love and being addicted to a relationship are romanticized by our culture… Very few models exist of people relating as peers in healthy, mature, honest, nonmanipulative, and nonexploitative ways, probably for two reasons: First, in all honesty, such relationships in real life are fairly rare. Second, since the quality of emotional interplay in healthy relationships is often much subtler than the blatant drama of unhealthy relationships,  » Read more

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Alone

I have a secret. I love to be alone.

For anyone who knows me in everyday life, this may come as a bit of a shock. After all, I’m friendly, chatty, outgoing, in many ways your basic socialite.

This doesn’t mean that social interactions don’t drain me, however. They do. I’m very sensitive to other people’s emotions,  » Read more

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Impressions

There’s nothing quite like walking along a road in Cleveland to come across a brownstone reverberating like a cathedral, The Jackson Five echoing into the street.

To find the yappy dog on the block has determined you are his consummate companion and manages to follow you from 5 feet ahead.

To cheer on the nun in the SUV who cuts off an entire line of traffic at the intersection,  » Read more

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Fan Letter to a Total Stranger

Post-It Note

I’m writing to you to thank you for the Post-It tucked inside the front cover of the copy of Women Who Love Too Much I bought secondhand with the list of other “Suggested Reading” you left for the next person who’d read it. Thank you for your insights, the notes you jotted in the margins,  » Read more

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Saving the World, One Knot at a Time

“The only hope for peace is to teach people who are full of pep and unbound force to enjoy being bound… Only when the control of self by others is more pleasant than the unbound assertion of self in human relationships can we hope for a stable, peaceful human society… Giving to others, being controlled by them,  » Read more

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Lazarus

It was quite a surprise when I met with my therapist last night.

“How are you doing?” she asked.

I smiled, thought a moment. “Really well, actually. Really freaking well. Something just clicked in my head, and so much makes sense now.”

I talked about my newfound clarity about my failed first marriage,  » Read more

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