I’m Not Mad, I’m…

a very grumpy looking dog

I grew up in a house where most of the conflict was very quiet. When nasty things were said, it was often in a very calm tone of voice. My mother had one negative emotion word she used all the time. It was “mad.” My dad wasn’t around much because he put in long hours and traveled for work,  » Read more

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There Are No Magic Words

an abstract image of red swirls with 3 starbursts

“I should never have used that word,” I said. “The L word. I thought nothing of it, but they totally got the wrong idea.”

“Oh, but it’s YOU!” she said.

“I know,” I agreed.

“Anyone who knows you, well… they know you say that to everybody. There’s a different way that you act when you’re in love with someone.  » Read more

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Selfishly Helping

2 kittens snuggling

It’s a funny thing… over the years, I have acted as a sounding board and supportive listener for a very large number of people. And I’ll admit it hasn’t always been easy – sometimes the timing is very inconvenient, sometimes you have empathy overload and feel an incredible amount of their pain, and sometimes you’re put in awkward spots where people have confided in you about each other,  » Read more

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Last week was pretty excellent. Beginning of the week, we spent one evening hang/cuddle/flirting with our super rad lesbian couple friends. And then since Spooky was out of town for a few days at a conference, I managed some quality alone/cat time before going out to a bar with a friend that I hadn’t seen for some time and was able to meet new people that she knows.  » Read more

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