Selfishly Helping

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It’s a funny thing… over the years, I have acted as a sounding board and supportive listener for a very large number of people. And I’ll admit it hasn’t always been easy – sometimes the timing is very inconvenient, sometimes you have empathy overload and feel an incredible amount of their pain, and sometimes you’re put in awkward spots where people have confided in you about each other,  » Read more

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Last week was pretty excellent. Beginning of the week, we spent one evening hang/cuddle/flirting with our super rad lesbian couple friends. And then since Spooky was out of town for a few days at a conference, I managed some quality alone/cat time before going out to a bar with a friend that I hadn’t seen for some time and was able to meet new people that she knows.  » Read more

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Is It a Date?

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“What do you think? Do you want to get together?”

“Sure, that sounds great.”

Schedules are coordinated, the time is set, logistics set. Your place, theirs? Who’s driving? Going out or staying in or both?

Aaaaaaand we’re good.

Except it’s unclear whether it’s a hangout or a date.  » Read more

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Canaries

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There are people in this world who hate to complain about a person or situation, and when they do, you can be sure you are getting the kindest, gentlest version possible. Pay attention to them. These people are canaries. Just like the ones the coal miners would use to detect poison gas before descending. Recently,  » Read more

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The Main Quest

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Staying positive is my major goal — if I were a video game protagonist that would be the main quest that advances the plot. However, I have noticed the maximum depth of existential angst of which I am capable steadily increases year by year. On the same hand, so does joy. It’s curious, this parameter growth.  » Read more

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On the Lam

I’ve known more than a couple folks in my day who prided themselves on being supremely rational, in control, unemotional. They were stoics. They thought they were tough.

All went well until they hit a snag, encountered a conflict. And then it became painfully obvious that they were full of it.

This is because avoiding emotions can cause them to come out sideways later.  » Read more

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Love Threesomes, Hate the Patriarchy

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I really love threesomes. Really, really love threesomes. Well, threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. Pretty much any configuration that has me with one guy and at least one girl, I’m so down for. One of the most interesting products of taking the plunge into polyamory in 2009 is that it made it really difficult to compartmentalize my bisexuality into the straight and lesbian bins that monogamy seemed to sort my desires into by default,  » Read more

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