There’s been a trend that’s been all the rage lately in self-help circles. One that advocates for cleaning house. Severing all your toxic social connections and being able to move forward unfettered, unencumbered.
Living your best life.
Do they bring you joy? Keep them. Do they cause you grief? Chuck them. » Read more
It was a common occurrence at the office I worked at to not talk about difficult things.
If there was an elephant in the room, you were just supposed to let the damn thing be.
If the emperor walked in naked, no way were you supposed to let anyone know.
Just act natural. » Read more
Hey folks. It’s official. Three years ago today, I began posting daily here at this site. And at that same time I made a private commitment to myself and a public commitment to anyone watching at the time that no matter what, I would publish a new article here every single day.
Three years in, » Read more
“Consistency theories all assume that human beings have a fundamental need to find meaning and order in life’s experiences. Psychologist Melvin J. Lerner adds that we need to believe in a just world, one in which people get what they deserve, good is rewarded, the sinful punished. The Belief in a Just World, he argues, » Read more
About a year and a half ago, I found myself in a poly relationship. I didn’t get into it under the best circumstances, though.
I had found out that my husband had been exploiting me for a decade and he was really turned on by the idea of me sleeping around, » Read more
It’s not cool to admit this, but I have times when I worry you’ve ruined me for other people.
Even if I wanted to actively date, I’m not sure I could stomach it anymore.
A lot has changed in the past decade or two. People used to meet primarily through their existing social networks. » Read more
I went through a breakup a while back that went exactly as planned. Because we talked about how we’d like to break up at the very beginning. Ideally what we’d both want from the other should things end.
When we ran out of road, I knew exactly how he wanted me to tell him. » Read more
Sometimes I see other people weighing the pros and cons of a big change. Coming up with lists. Emotionally processing for months before they make that big decision: To do or not to do — that is the question.
I’ve noticed most of the time that they don’t. They stick with the status quo. » Read more
“So,” he said to me, “What do you think?”
“About what?” I replied.
He frowned. “About the book I lent you.”
“Lent” was a curious way of putting it. In actuality, he had insisted the last time we spoke that I needed to read the Wheel of Time series, » Read more
It’s a funny thing. I was raised in an environment where crying was forbidden — and a punishable offense.
My mother herself was quick to tears, and that was tolerated of course. I unfortunately inherited a similar disposition. But my own crying wasn’t permissible. Especially not around my father.
Dad was uncomfortable with crying. » Read more