It’s Easy to Convince Yourself That an Opportunity Has Passed Forever, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re Right.

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“You know,” I say to Justin as we’re out shopping for presents, “I’ve always wanted one of those.”

It’s a kit that lets you grow your own crystals. On the box it says that it’s suitable for ages 10 and up.

“Probably sounds silly,” I say. “But yeah. Lusted after this kind of thing pretty hard when I was a kid.”  » Read more

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Are You Highly Suggestible?

it's a photograph of a bunny being hypnotized by a human
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“You better watch out,” she says. I’m highly suggestible,”

I laugh.

“Seriously though,” she says. “I spend time around people, and I find myself picking up their qualities. Their mannerisms.”

I nod because I know what she means. I’ve been there many times myself. But instead of telling her that,  » Read more

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Sometimes the Best Way to Feel Better Is to Forget Yourself & Focus on Other People Instead

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For a femme, I am really terrible at doing my makeup.

For real. I didn’t know the first thing, had practically never worn a stitch of makeup — let alone put it on myself — until a few years ago.

And even since then, I’ve been fuzzy on the particulars.  » Read more

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Sorry Not Sorry, Forced Apologies Aren’t Helpful and Aren’t Fooling Anyone

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I do so hate a fauxpology (i.e., fake apology). You know exactly what I’m talking about. When someone’s saying the words, “I”m sorry,” but you can tell they don’t really mean it. Either by tone of voice or stilted word use.

“Oh, I’m sorry,” with an eye roll.

Or something equally unimpressive like,  » Read more

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