The Conscientious Polyamorist
A study came out a while back correlating personality traits with polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. I read it with great interest but… Read More »The Conscientious Polyamorist
A study came out a while back correlating personality traits with polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. I read it with great interest but… Read More »The Conscientious Polyamorist
“I’m always doing everything for everyone else,” she says. “And where does it get me?” I’m taken aback. I’m not sure where this is coming… Read More »Kindness Misers: “I’m Always Doing Everything for Everyone Else”
I am a long-term recovering people pleaser. Growing up in a house with difficult family members, I learned quite young to set aside my own… Read More »How to Know if You’re Selfish: A Pattern of Not Giving Back
I’m very interested in polyamory, but one thing holds me back. I worry that it’s not possible to have multiple relationships and have them all… Read More »Polyamory Is Not for Perfectionists, But Neither Is Happiness.
“Dating is the worst,” she says. “Tell me about it.” “I’m just tired of explaining myself,” she says. “Over and over again.” “Oh? The poly stuff?”… Read More »Being on the Market Longer Means Making Peace with No
PQ 7.2 — What can I do to be more direct in my communication? * The process of moving from an indirect style to a direct style… Read More »PQ 7.2 — What can I do to be more direct in my communication?
“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.” -Max Lucado * As I wrote in a previous post, there are worse things than conflict, including perpetually… Read More »What’s Your Conflict Style? 5 Approaches to Conflict Resolution
PQ 5.8 — Who are my mirrors? Whom do I rely on to call me on my mistakes? It was the world’s tackiest wedding RSVP.… Read More »PQ 5.8 — Who are my mirrors? Whom do I rely on to call me on my mistakes?
One of the trickiest parts of polyamory is determining whether or not something you’re doing affects someone else. In a more simple relationship system, like… Read More »How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Polyamorous and Open Relationships
“You can have it.” “No, it’s yours.” “Just take it already.” It’s a dance that Justin and I do. Each one deferring in turn, the… Read More »The Last Pretzel Bite: The Ins and Outs of Out-Niceing Each Other