Being Selfish, Combative & Manipulative Will NOT Help You Get Ahead at Work

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There’s a certain stereotype of professional success — a cartoonishly selfish figure that has no qualms stepping on other people to climb the corporate ladder.

But is being Machiavellian really an effective method of getting ahead at work? People have been arguing about this for ages. (Literal ages, because ancient philosophers argued about this,  » Read more

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Don’t Talk Yourself Out of Deep, Meaningful Connection By Calling It Unrealistic

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There’s a meme I made a while back that I post from time to time. The lead-in caption reads, “When you’re making up with someone and they take responsibility for their part in the argument and you also take responsibility for yours.”

Beneath this lead-in is a photograph of actress Tatyana Ali in her role of Ashley Banks on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air.  » Read more

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What Are Love Maps?

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I tend to be a very intentional person. A planner. It’s probably why I became a psychological researcher in the first place. When I discovered there was a discipline already in place that tests our intuitions about each other and how the interpersonal world operates… well, it was frankly a huge relief.

I do a weekend series on this blog called “  » Read more

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Men & Women Are Different When It Comes to Being Willing to Help Crying People

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I’m a person who has always cried pretty easily. It’s one of the reasons I know I’m sensitive, even though I try not to let things get me down and to bounce back. Over the years, I’ve learned how to work around my tears when they spring up at an inconvenient time. I have a bunch of mental/physical tricks to prevent myself from crying at a bad time.  » Read more

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