It’s been a hard day. A really hard one. I thought I had a handle on everything. I’ve been managing to be productive and stay healthy. But apparently I’ve been pushing down some stress — because my body starts to freak out in that way it only does when I’ve been anxious for some time but good at ignoring it consciously. » Read more
“You have a lot of time to think when you can’t go anywhere,” she says.
“I know what you mean,” I tell her. “There are always things you have to do. Work and chores. Responsibilities. That sort of thing. They don’t go away just because there’s a pandemic raging. But the distractions… well, » Read more
One of my big motivations for settling down once upon a time was that I really didn’t do well with rejection.
A lot of people don’t. But I was very sensitive to it. No matter how many other things went well for me, I really had a hard time with the times I was rejected. » Read more
As I covered in an earlier installment of Psyched, a lot of friends with benefits (FWB) are hoping for the arrangement to become romantic. Frankly, more than I would have expected before I found that study. (Its findings were truly surprising to me.)
But that earlier study was a survey, » Read more
Long ago and far away, I managed the training department of a psychological consulting firm. This pretty much meant I was always doing something related to training. Sometimes this meant looking over educators’ training programs and helping them optimize the material for the crowd they were trying to reach. Other times it meant designing custom courses for client companies for workplace wellness and/or conflict resolution. » Read more
We’ve both been having weird dreams while staying at home, riding out the pandemic.
In yours, you’re usually somewhere, and no one is wearing masks. Everyone’s packed in. You’re so frustrated with them and worried.
Sometimes your dreams get a little more metaphorical but no less stressful. I think you said something about one with a vampire gangster syndicate. » Read more
You know, I never would have asked for you to hurt me this way. And if I’d had any choice in the matter, it would have been no choice at all.
If I knew how much you were going to hurt me one day, I would have spent more time creating distance between us. » Read more
I dated this guy once who had the weirdest habit: He’d spontaneously talk about presents he was going to get me. Aloud. In front of me.
And then time would pass, and he never would give anything to me. Not what he said, not something else.
It would happen over and over again. » Read more
My wife and I have been together for many years. We opened our relationship years ago, but until recently it had been primarily physical (friends with benefits, etc.). About a year ago, I began to see my girlfriend, the first connection in our open relationship that was not only a good physical one but turned emotional and serious in a way that neither of our prior open relationship experiences had. » Read more
The other evening, we decided to use our fireplace for the first time. We’ve lived in this place for 16 months now, but between the weather being a lot warmer down here than we’re used to (we moved from Ohio to Texas) and having a lot of other things to do, we never really got around to it. » Read more