We talk a lot about New Relationship Energy in polyamory, that feeling of euphoria you experience when you start a new relationship. Colors are brighter. Food tastes better. You may have a decreased need for sleep, for food. These cognitive shifts cause you to feel like your new partner can do no wrong. » Read more
What do you do with a love that grows bigger than it’s allowed to?
I have a giant heart. So my love? It doesn’t stay small. It grows big. Sometimes it seems like my love grows and grows until a barrier comes in and stops it. That if those barriers weren’t in place that my love would grow forever. » Read more
There’s a certain stereotype of professional success — a cartoonishly selfish figure that has no qualms stepping on other people to climb the corporate ladder.
But is being Machiavellian really an effective method of getting ahead at work? People have been arguing about this for ages. (Literal ages, because ancient philosophers argued about this, » Read more
“You know,” I say to my friend. “I think 12-year-old me would be pretty impressed with how my life is going.” I have cats. My love life is good. I’m writing full time, which isn’t lucrative by a long shot, but I make it work.
And I wear lots of dresses. That was apparently important to her. » Read more
In another piece, I talked about midlife crisis. But I didn’t dive as deeply into it as I probably should have. I stayed on the surface, wondering about it in passing — what midlife crisis actually was. And if it actually existed, outside of silly jokes about it.
I missed what it looks like in my own life. » Read more
There’s a meme I made a while back that I post from time to time. The lead-in caption reads, “When you’re making up with someone and they take responsibility for their part in the argument and you also take responsibility for yours.”
Beneath this lead-in is a photograph of actress Tatyana Ali in her role of Ashley Banks on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air. » Read more
I tend to be a very intentional person. A planner. It’s probably why I became a psychological researcher in the first place. When I discovered there was a discipline already in place that tests our intuitions about each other and how the interpersonal world operates… well, it was frankly a huge relief.
I do a weekend series on this blog called “ » Read more
I know I don’t write a ton about polyamorous parenting on this blog, mostly because I am not a parent and don’t spend a lot of time with children. I don’t have any children myself. I did have partners in the past that had children, but it has been a while.
That said, » Read more
Well, today’s study is kind of cool. I haven’t written about it too much, but both of my parents had insomnia. They both had different kinds, and I took after both of them, so sleep has been a constant struggle for me throughout my life. When I was a little girl, I was usually the first one up in the house, » Read more
I’m a person who has always cried pretty easily. It’s one of the reasons I know I’m sensitive, even though I try not to let things get me down and to bounce back. Over the years, I’ve learned how to work around my tears when they spring up at an inconvenient time. I have a bunch of mental/physical tricks to prevent myself from crying at a bad time. » Read more