Ever since my father passed away in April, I’ve been talking to my mother a lot more. We haven’t had the best relationship, my mother… Read More »Sometimes You Have to Make Your Own Closure, No Matter What It Takes
My father passed away six weeks ago. The first time I typed out that sentence, I accidentally wrote, “My father passed away six years ago.”… Read More »I’m Waiting for Despair to Transform Into Something Else
“If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else” is something that other people basically never stop saying. Only people with high self-esteem (positive… Read More »They Tell You to Love Yourself First, But Support Systems Are a Huge Advantage
I used to be a chronic apologizer. Ask anyone who knew me back in the day. The words “I’m sorry” were a reflex. I said… Read More »I’m Sorry for Saying Sorry Too Much… Errr… Damn!
Sometimes people are surprised to learn that I grew up in a rural area in a highly religious family with very traditional conservative ideas of… Read More »I Get Good at Silence Around Certain People, But I Never Have Learned to Enjoy It
I grew up in a strict authoritarian household where I had very little freedom. It was a house in which you had to ask permission… Read More »You Can Be Conditioned to Expect Communication to Be Full of Tricks and Traps
There are four children in my family. I have two older sisters and a younger brother, making me the third of four kids in the… Read More »You Can Be Conditioned to Have No Confidence Even If You’re Very Capable
I recently covered a study on pronoun use and attachment styles for Psyched for the Weekend, a recurring feature in which I geek out with brief… Read More »So Apparently I’m Securely Attached, But I Didn’t Get the Memo
I’m not sure exactly where I heard it first, but it was all the rage during the first year or two after I joined FetLife:… Read More »What Does It Mean to Be a Credit to Your Kink?
This past winter I went to Mexico, taking the first vacation I had in years. It was a much-needed break from a work-life balance that… Read More »I Was Taught Sex Was Dangerous Over and Over Again Growing Up
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