“I love you,” Skyspook said. “And that’s why if you go back there, back to that house, this relationship is over.”
“Yeah,” Seth said. “You’re not going back there.”
I’d just gotten done telling them (my husband and boyfriend) and two of our friends — Crock and Hilda — about an unfortunate incident with my other partner Rob. » Read more
“What’s a unicorn?” someone new to polyamory and its lexicon will invariably ask.
As folks pop up to answer the question, a few definitions will emerge. The most basic one is that the term “unicorn” is one that is primarily used in polyamorous circles to denote a bisexual woman who will date couples (most commonly heterosexual ones). » Read more
PQ 12.11 — Do I feel safe opening my heart to someone who has given the power to end our relationship to someone else?
It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to. » Read more
PQ 12.10 — If I start a relationship with someone who is already partnered, what kind of input do I feel is reasonable for their other partners to have in our relationship?
This question sits at the intersection of two separate — but important — issues.
The first is that whenever possible it’s best to stay out of other people’s relationships, » Read more
The last few weeks, I’ve been playing a lot with my Retro Pie, reliving my childhood one game at a time. The future is basically amazing. It’s been interesting playing games again as an adult. Some games seem more difficult, others less. But it’s more or less the same experience, except for one thing: On an emulator, » Read more
I am, as I’ve said, merely competent. But in an age of incompetence, that makes me extraordinary.
There were no formerly heroic times, and there was no formerly pure generation. There is no one here but us chickens, and so it has always been: A people busy and powerful, » Read more
It started over a year ago with a letter from a reader:
Do you have any advice for couples who are about to open up their relationships?
My partner and I are new to poly. We don’t know where to begin. We’d like to find someone to date together. » Read more
The most difficult part of opening up a relationship is that you’re changing its terms. However, it isn’t just the adjustment stress that can accompany all change (although that can be tough). It’s also that most of the time you didn’t go into the relationship expecting it to be open. And suddenly things that never mattered, » Read more
“I don’t know why you’re making such a big deal out of this,” he says.
“I really want to work on fixing the problem,” I say.
“What problem?” he says. “You’re the only one who thinks it’s a problem.”
And as I stand there, aching from what he’s just said, » Read more
PQ 12.9 — Do I understand the needs my partner is seeking to meet by requesting veto, and have I considered alternative ways of meeting those needs?
Where I grew up at least, the cars they use for driver’s ed have a second set of controls on the passenger’s side. » Read more