I’m a person who has made an awful lot of personal resolutions — to change, to quit something, to stick to something new.
Have I always been successful? No.
But sometimes I have been. Sometimes the resolution has stuck. I lost some weight. I finally stopped buying my own excuses and launched a successful writing career. » Read more
I had a friend once upon a time. When I met her, she had a couple of strong business endeavors going on. I looked up to her. In my mind, she was a force. And I supported her businesses. Whenever I could, I bought items from her. I recommended her work to other people. I commissioned gifts from her for people in my life — » Read more
Okay, here’s the deal. If someone wants to break up with me, I say “okay.” I accept it. I might ask why if I’m curious. But I don’t argue with them about it.
Well, here’s the way I see it. When someone decides they want to break up with me, » Read more
The battery on my phone stopped working a while back. The first troubling sign came the day we drove up to the Red River — to get out of the house. The crossing was eerily beautiful — like something from an alien planet. Naturally, I tried to use my phone to snap a picture. And even though I had greater than 80% battery life, » Read more
I’m a polyamorous person that keeps ending up in relationships with monogamous people. Then I compromise and feel wrong, unseen, miserable, and wish to stay polyamorous solo. Then it happens again. Why?
This is an interesting question, letter writer. To be perfectly honest, you didn’t give me a lot to work with here. » Read more
One of the very first things you learn about when you go to school for psychology is conditioning. Most folks are familiar with classical conditioning — Pavlov’s dogs, all that jazz. It’s based on producing involuntary responses to a certain stimulus. In the case of that famous experiment, dogs learned to salivate when a bell rang — » Read more
It’s basically a trope at this point. When a child is in trouble, a parent calls them by their full name: First, middle, and last.
“John Quincy Adams, you get right down here this minute!”
Fun fact: I wanted to use Abraham Lincoln as an example, but he didn’t have a middle name. » Read more
A reader wrote in with the following suggestion: How about an article about how to deal with it if your metamour does presents but you don’t?
On the surface, it’s a fairly simple issue. So let’s say that your metamour really wants to give and receive presents. That it’s important to them. » Read more
“Look,” I say finally, because I’m tired of worrying about it, “I’m just gonna level with you. I didn’t get you a Christmas present this year.”
You nod. Maybe you’re going to say something to me in reply.
But I’m too pent up and too impatient. Too defensive. So instead I continue. » Read more
Winter Solstice was a big day this year. The great conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn — the closest those two planetary bodies have been since 1623.
To say this doesn’t happen often is an understatement.
We moved to Texas last year. We’re both from up North — he originally from Michigan, » Read more