I Thought I Was Monogamous. I Was Actually Obsessive.

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I’ve written about it many times, but I’m very different from a lot of people who write prominently about consensual non-monogamy. Probably the most striking difference is that I’m more ambiamorous than polyamorous. What do I mean by that? I essentially mean that I’m about equally as happy being in a monogamous relationship as I am being in a polyamorous relationship system.  » Read more

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It’s Not Always Easy to Manage Lockdown, But We Do Our Best

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It’s not easy to celebrate big occasions in the middle of a pandemic. But we do our best.

We usually make do with something small. A box of strawberry cake mix and a cannister of cream cheese frosting that have magically wound our way here through the miracle that is online shopping.

Or my strange pandemic birthday that occurred just a short while into lockdown (I’m an Aries).  » Read more

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I Know How to Comfort Myself. But I Wish I Didn’t Have to.

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I’ve never quite gotten the hang of comforting myself. It’s not for lack of trying. Not for lack of practice.

It’s strange, really, since I’ve been a comforting person to so many people. I’ve been the one dropping everything to help a lover work through an issue. The one you could literally wake up in the middle of the night and talk to about your nightmares.  » Read more

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It Takes Two (or More) People to Break Up Well… And Sometimes It Takes a Little Time

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“I honestly don’t know what I expected out of polyamorous people, but you guys aren’t at all what I thought you’d be like.”

I laugh. “What do you mean by that?”

“Don’t take it the wrong way,” she says.

“I’m not offended or anything. I just want to understand what you’re talking about.  » Read more

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