It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
I tell him that I don’t feel good. That I feel like something’s chasing me.
I’m not always great at knowing the words for the symptoms I’m having, » Read more
PQ 20.1 — Do I know my current STI status and that of all my partners?
Yes! And I know the status of my metamours.
I also know which relationships use protection and which don’t. And a reasonable snapshot of what new sexual contact might come over the horizon. » Read more
PQ 19.7 — What happens if I or a partner of mine has an unexpected pregnancy?
I’ve Dated People With Children Before. I Would Again.
At one point in my polyamorous life, I had two pregnant girlfriends.
Well, sort of.
One I knew about since she was visibly and obviously pregnant. » Read more
Is it being disrespectful of the secondary relationship(s) to expect the person to finish their household chores before they focus their energy on that person/ those people? I’m not talking about saying hi and letting them know you made it home safe. I mean full-on in-depth, could take hours, » Read more
I remember standing in the movie theater staring at a game I couldn’t take my eyes off. It was there, wedged in between the spiral wishing well funnel you dropped coins into and what was essentially a glorified mood ring, where you’d press as hard as you could, and it would tell you how stressed you were — » Read more
I have been in a polyamorous relationship for several months now, and everything seemed to be going relatively okay until about a month and a half ago. There were small obstacles along the way, but I was under the impression they’d been overcome.
To start from the beginning: I met my partner Tom† when we ended up sitting next to each other on a train and spoke for the whole ride. » Read more
I was as hard headed as they come when asking for what I needed. In my case, it was being fed a steady stream of compliments by anyone I dated. It wasn’t enough to receive the same one over and over. No, I wanted a carefully curated mix. “I love you” or “you’re cute” would barely register. » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for several months now. I like your writing because I feel like you talk about polyamory and monogamy in ways that are realistic and like you can understand a person pursuing either relationship style, so long as people are treating each other in a healthy way. » Read more
PQ 19.6 — How do I feel about sex outside a romantic relationship?
There are times that I’m not sure what “romance” means. At least what it means to other people. Sure, I know the dictionary definition: “a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.”
Okay, but what kind of love? » Read more
PQ 19.5 — How do I feel about group sex and sexual exhibitionism?
I feel good about them! I think they are fun and valid forms of sexual expression so long as everyone involved consents to them. No pressuring someone to join an orgy. Or flashing people in the park. » Read more