Especially when you’re not used to it, setting boundaries with people can be difficult. A recovering people pleaser myself, I’ve struggled a lot with it.… Read More »Getting to “No” You: Setting Boundaries Reveals People’s True Natures
I have suffered from people pleasing my whole life, and am inclined to change too much for other people, especially if I like them. Even if it makes me miserable. It’s easy in such a situation to be suspicious of your own growth.
There’s no getting around it. One of the most sabotaging things you can do is not set boundaries with other people. It can be extremely damaging to your life and happiness if you regularly say yes to other people when you really want to say no.
I used to be a person who responded to everyone who contacted me. Day or night. Regardless of who they were, if I even liked them, how much it inconvenienced me.
While it feels good when something is relatable, is it always good? Or are there times when memes simply give us the permission not to do the work to change and grow?
Once upon a time, I not only had a
double standard but practiced a triple standard, whereby I had one set of standards for myself, a second for others, and a third for idealized others, a.k.a., the pedestal.
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very… Read More »When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
The other day I got a question from a reader in response to my essay on the importance of being around gracious people. This is true… Read More »If You’re Asking Yourself If You’re Being a Doormat, Then the Answer Is Yes
I’m a recovering people pleaser. There’s no getting around it. As I’ve been working on those issues for nearly a decade and have made an… Read More »There Are So Many Transitions That the Transitions Have Transitions
I’ve been talking over a conflict with a client who is managing a difficult situation well. They’re a little frustrated that they haven’t been able… Read More »The Right Thing Won’t Always Feel Right
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