Being Constantly Told to Shut Up When You’re a Kid Sticks With You

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“You got your creativity from me,” my mother says. “Your father was good at many things, but he didn’t have a creative bone in his body.”

My father passed away in April. He was an inventor, a construction engineer. A brilliant blue collar man. He wasn’t a very talkative person — unless you got him going about something he was passionate about —  » Read more

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I’ve Always Been a Sucker for a Comeback & It Almost Destroyed Me

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There’s a meme that’s been flying around for some time that talks about how kids who were mistreated will learn to love unwanted things. I personally have loved Godzilla and other kaiju for a very long time. And a lot of other people I know who had rough childhoods will frequently root for the villain.  » Read more

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Huh. Unattractive People Overestimate Their Attractiveness; Attractive People Underestimate Theirs.

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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listened to a super attractive friend or romantic partner tell me they looked like crap.  Or asked for reassurance that they looked okay — when in fact, they looked stunning.

This kind of behavior can actually be a little trying. It can come off as a disingenuous form of attention-seeking.  » Read more

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Rich People Might Actually Be Clueless When It Comes to Others

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Boy, oh boy, peer-reviewed psychological research is getting lit lately. There is a lot of study in the area of how being wealthy can affect the way that you treat other people.

For example, a former installment of this same series covered a study which demonstrated that being rich in money can also mean being poor in both empathy and scruples.  » Read more

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I Wish I Didn’t Feel Like Having Deep Conversations Right Before Bed

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I’ve been thinking about it for a couple of days. When I first started to worry, I thought maybe it would be a passing thought. A lot of things are. Most things are no big deal, and with time a concern seems silly.

But this one worry has persisted. And I’ve spent most of the day preceding thinking about it.  » Read more

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Why I Like Old Relationship Energy More Than New Relationship Energy

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I can still remember what my ex-husband said when we’d been dating each for a few months.

“I’m sad that the chase is over.”

I laughed at the time when he said it. Which he wasn’t fond of, because he was being serious (and he often interpreted laughter as hostile).

He went on to explain that his favorite parts of his past relationships had been in the courtship phase.  » Read more

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I’m So Tired of Love Triangles in Stories

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My new novel Psychic City has been out for a few weeks. And holy hornbeam have y’all been awesome about it. I’ve been hearing from a lot you who have already read the book (wow) and really enjoyed it (aww).

For those of you who aren’t familiar with the book, Psychic City is a slipstream mystery that follows a trio of polyamorous women who are detectives investigating a string of murders.  » Read more

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