I’m a long time reader of your blog and I have a mostly positive question! About feeeeelings. And communication styles.
I’ve currently got two lovely partners, one nesting and one not, and things are going great. Edging towards serious territory even. Nesting partner loves other partner and we’re all really good about the communication thing. » Read more
“You know what my favorite thing about polyamory is?” she says.
“What’s that?” I reply.
“That there’s room to have relationships that don’t follow traditional norms,” she says.
I nod. Because I know what she means. “You’re not confined to the rules of the relationship escalator,” » Read more
There’s a word I learned recently. Kummerspeck. It’s German. Its literal meaning is “grief bacon.”
Figuratively, it’s used to mean the weight you gain from emotional eating.
When it comes to grief bacon, the struggle is real. Don’t I know that.
Because ten years ago, I lost 160 pounds. » Read more
How we see ourselves and how others see us are often very different things.
Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingraham created an exercise called the Johari Window (named by combining part of both of their first names, Jo + Harri/Hari) that can help bridge that gap.
In the Johari Window exercise, participants pick words from a list of adjectives that they feel describe their personality. » Read more
Once upon a time, in the magical age of 2003, singer Barbra Streisand was very upset about something. That specific something was the fact that photographs of her Malibu house were on the Internet.
It didn’t matter that the original context of the photograph wasn’t even sensationalistic. Streisand’s home was instead simply one image in a collection of 12,000 photographs of the California coastline as part of the California Coastal Records Project, » Read more
Can a solo poly person be a nesting partner?
Thanks for the question! Before I dive deeply into it, let’s first explore the definitions of those two terms for readers who might be unfamiliar with them. » Read more
What Is a Nesting Partner?
Let’s say your partner is seeing someone new, the reader wrote. And you don’t really like them. What do you do?
I nodded when I got this question. Aloud I said, “It happens. It definitely happens.”
And I wrote a blog post in response — “Help, » Read more
There’s a meme that’s been going around for a while, based on a viral tweet. It says, “Send me a ‘we need to talk’ text and I’m just going to respond with ‘yeah. We absolutely do.’ Now we’re both waiting with spicy armpits.”
Spicy armpits. OMG. I’m still laughing at that. » Read more
“You know,” she says. “I get a rush off meeting new people. It doesn’t even have to someone I’m dating. A capital R Relationship. I can make a new friend, even a new acquaintance, and it’ll make my week. Do you know what I mean?”
I nod. “I do. If I meet someone cool, » Read more
I have been thinking of something for the past week or so, and it has been scratching at my mind and I’m not really sure why because I don’t really care about labels.
Is there technically a difference between open relationships and polyamory? Or does it depend on the people involved and what their personal belief is regarding those? » Read more