How Are We Supposed to Really Understand Sex If We’re Not Comfortable Talking About It?

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It’s happy hour at the bar with Skyspook’s coworkers. I’m his designated driver and feeling a bit out of place as a plus one. Most of the people there I’m meeting for the first time, and they’re nice enough, so I do my best to chat with them.

I’m relieved when Skyspook’s boss walks up to me since we’ve met in the past and talked before.  » Read more

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PQ 13.2 — If I feel a desire to restrict relationships between my partners and their partners, what underlying need am I trying to meet?

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PQ 13.2 — If I feel a desire to restrict relationships between my partners and their partners, what underlying need am I trying to meet?

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I used to spend a lot of time when I was a kid thinking about magic. It was all the rage in middle school especially.  » Read more

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PQ 13.1 — How do I encourage decision-making participation by all my partners? In what ways do I show my partners they are empowered?

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PQ 13.1 — How do I encourage decision-making participation by all my partners? In what ways do I show my partners they are empowered?

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You know. It’s funny. For the longest time, I really felt that it was possible to fix something — anything, really — if I only just worked hard enough.  » Read more

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A World Where People Don’t Say What They Mean

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It had been a long emotional night. Yet another fight with Seth.

It wasn’t just that we were arguing again. No, it was worse than a repeat. The negativity had gone to a whole new level.

“I used to love you before you became such a bitch,” he said.

I’ve Learned You Don’t Argue with Someone Who Is Insulting You

I learned a long time ago that you don’t argue with someone who is insulting you.  » Read more

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We Broke Up, But Facebook Thinks We’re Still Together

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My phone buzzes. I glance at the lock screen. And immediately sigh.

My newly ex-boyfriend has posted another status. Something about sports. Inscrutable to those who don’t possess encyclopedic knowledge of various plays. Codified like a comparative analysis of chess openings. Not my language.

And what am I doing looking at this status anyway?  » Read more

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