Your Daily Polyamory Blog for Navigating Life, Relationships, and More
Quartz recently published a piece called “Turns out open relationships aren’t the most sexually satisfying.”
As Cassie Werber writes in the article:
Opening up a relationship can be about more than sex. Advocates talk about the deep trust forged by letting one’s partner have other relationships, » Read more
In “Poly Road Testing for Responsible Travelers,” I covered a few things you can do before you open up your relationship that’ll make it go a little more smoothly.
I’ve also previously written about best practices for negotiating polyamorous relationship agreements as well as how to manage things if you find that you need to renegotiate your relationship agreement (a very common scenario once the agreement has been “road tested”). » Read more
PQ 8.6 — Do I think that if my partner falls in love with another person, he will leave me for that person?
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When I was in school, a lot of my classmates loved multiple choice exams.
I didn’t.
I was that student who wouldn’t just pick an answer. » Read more
A reader made an excellent observation about my earlier piece “How to Know if You’re Selfish.”
I’m looking at your criterion for selfishness at the end and, to be honest, it feels incomplete.
Specifically, it leaves a very important case unclear: What if someone offers you something (that you didn’t ask for), » Read more
The knowledge of yourself will preserve you from vanity.
-Miguel de Cervantes
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When I was in high school, I used to sit and draw pictures of my hands in various positions. I spent hours staring at them, the distance between digits. Especially in AP History. Our teacher was the high school football coach, » Read more
I recently stumbled across a post over at Esther Perel’s blog called “Relationship accountability and the rise of ghosting.” Post author Lindsay addresses consequences of the trend towards ambiguous entanglement and indirect and prolonged breakups and argues for more direct breakups, which they dub “power parting.”
It’s a good article with valid points and includes this chart that helpfully organizes the concepts. » Read more
If you’re an ethically nonmonogamous person and haven’t heard of Terri Conley, PhD, you’re missing out. Dr. Conley is “a social psychologist, a feminist, and a sex researcher, but not necessarily in that order.”
And Conley has arguably done more than any other person for establishing a sound scientific basis that polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamy are a viable way to conduct relationships. » Read more
The Sword of Damocles
The Greek legend of the sword of Damocles is a moral parable about the danger and burdens that face those in positions of power.
The tale goes a little something like this:
Damocles is sucking up to his king, Dionysius.
“Being a king is so freaking awesome,” » Read more
With a new film treatment of It coming out this fall, I’m thinking about Charlie Howard again. Although queer kids from Maine don’t really stop thinking about him.
If you’ve read Stephen King’s It (or watched the miniseries from the 90’s), you may be familiar with the scene where teenagers throw a gay man into the river. » Read more
I recently discovered an easy way that you can pull up your entire search history.
So of course I took the bait. I figured what better way to get to know myself? Seeing what I wondered about when I thought no one was watching. Take that, Past Self! Big Brother is watching you… » Read more
