It Was Terrifying the First Time I Dated Someone Who Was Really Good to Me

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I remember being scared a lot when we first started dating. Suspicious. Worried.

Not about you. Not about us. Or our fit. No, we always made sense to me.

I was worried because you kept doing nice things for me. Completely unprompted. You paid close attention to me, and you saw the areas of my life that were unwieldy and offered to help.  » Read more

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Huh, They Confirmed Fragile Masculinity in the Lab

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Fragile masculinity is a cultural phenomenon that’s getting talked about more and more the past few years. Basically, when a man has a fragile sense of masculinity, he believes that manhood is something uncertain, that must be earned, and that can be lost.

Typically, in this belief system, manhood is defined by proving that you are not emotional.  » Read more

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Self-Partnering Sounds an Awful Lot Like Solo Polyamory

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I’ve been reading more and more about a new relationship term lately: Self-partnering.

It had a big pop culture moment last month when Emma Watson declared herself self-partnered in an interview.

Since then, multiple articles have spun off, and people are talking more and more about the idea of self-partnering. The concept that a person could be single but not feel lonely,  » Read more

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Does Abuse Require Bad Intent or Can It Be the Result of Simple Incompetence?

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I didn’t think of myself as being a survivor of anything — much less abuse — until I was in my 30s.

The news was delivered to me in my therapist’s office, spoken as an casual aside, quickly, as though she assumed the information was obvious to me.

“Well, that’s pretty common for people who have had abusive childhoods,  » Read more

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In Straight Relationships, Men Are More Likely to Be the First One to Say “I Love You”

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When I talk about someone being “a hopeless romantic,” most people are likely to assume I’m talking about a woman. Because we’re fiends for romance, don’t you know? Sensitive creatures obsessed with feelings and affection and all the trappings of a loving partnered life.

Romance junkies.

Straight men, on the other hand,  » Read more

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People Get More Anxious When Others Take Risks Than When They Do So Themselves

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Have you ever sat up all night and worried about someone?

I sure have. Especially if I knew they were doing something particularly risky or dangerous, like driving a long distance when the weather was bad.

In one instance, a loved one was several hours late arriving home, and I couldn’t get a hold of them by phone (not normal at all for them).  » Read more

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