Woo! As I posted earlier, I finished the first draft of my polyamory memoir last month. I’ve been waiting to work on the second draft of that book until the semester is over next week – in an effort to give myself time and distance away from the project so that I can edit it more objectively. » Read more
So a major question I’m encountering trying to prepare for my ever more imminent entry into grad school is what form my research should take – laboratory experimental, extra-laboratory experimental, observation, survey, interview, etc.
Laboratory experiments are the toughest to design properly – and often difficult to derive based on the research question, » Read more
“Keep your eye on the intuitions, and don’t take people’s moral arguments at face value. They’re mostly post hoc constructions made up on the fly, crafted to advance one or more strategic objectives.”
-Jonathan Haidt, The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion
A month or so ago, » Read more
I mentioned in my last blog post, “Patient, Forget Thyself,” that the last book I finished, Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness, had multiple take-aways. The one I described in that entry was the distinction Seligman makes regarding gratification vs. pleasure and the integral part self-absorption plays in depression.
The other huge take-away for me was an introduction to relationship attachment styles. » Read more
Kids today. Still getting used to them.
Yesterday I was reading a book waiting for class to start when the girl that sits in front of me asked me, “Whacha reading?”
It’s not every day that someone asks you what you’re reading and then proceeds to make fun of it.
But it happened. » Read more
I had a dream last night that my ex-boyfriend Rob* randomly showed up for one of our parties. The other guests were instantly uncomfortable. Rob asked to talk to me privately. Despite many disapproving glances, I agreed and went off to another room to talk to him alone.
In the real world, Rob and I had a really shitty breakup, » Read more
No pain, no gain, right? Right.
Right enough anyway, though I suppose that would mean masochists are basically greedy. On second thought, that works. We’re sensation sponges.
I’m back on the diet wagon today. It’s been 2 months since the wedding ceremony, and between the relief that I no longer had to worry about squeezing into my gown and the weather getting colder, » Read more
The bane of my existence has not been that men only want to fuck me, use me as an object of their pleasure.
It is worse than that.
It’s been that I’ve lowered myself repeatedly to that level, only to have them reject me in my base state.
In those moments, » Read more
I need to write about this because one day I’ll have worked everything out and be so far beyond my current troubles that I’ll forget how I got past this point.
I can hazard a guess, but I don’t know for sure exactly when or why everything changed. Somehow somewhere along the line I stopped listening to my emotions, » Read more
Being confronted with your past self is quite an eerie experience.
Many of my close friends know that my email inbox is a nightmare, completely bloated with old messages, because I never erase or even read anything that isn’t directly sent to me or looks somewhat interesting to me at any given time. » Read more