“So I’m gonna warn you up front,” I said. “I’m the queen of secret makeouts.”
“The Secret Makeouts, eh?” he said. “Hawt. Guess I missed the best volume of the Hardy Boys.”
“I wanted to let you know because it can be difficult for some people.”
“Okay, » Read more
“You shouldn’t care what people think of you,” a close friend used to say to me.
I didn’t agree then, and I still don’t.
While being a people pleaser can be the road to ruin, I also think it’s possible to take things too far in the other direction. » Read more
While a lot of people focus on dating sites when they’re opening up, my greatest success in polyamory has come from finding or making poly communities and being generally social in them. This has resulted in making a ton of cool friends, some of whom I’ve dated. Even if it had resulted in zero dating prospects, » Read more
Since you’re a big word nerd, I thought you might be able to help me with a couple things.
I know that my partner’s other partner is my metamour. But what should I call my metamour’s other partner? Is there a word? If not, » Read more
I will never forget my first sex mirage.
I was instantly hooked when I met her. There was just something about her that drove me crazy. A live wire of sensuality snaked through her, from the way she licked her lips, through the sway of her hips, down to the way her toes would curl when she laughed. » Read more
Mono/poly relationships, i.e., a relationship between a partner who is monogamous and one who is polyamorous, are notoriously difficult. Traditional poly blogger wisdom points the finger at both parties having to compromise and feeling somewhat shortchanged. The difference between the relationship structures is to blame for the trouble, they write. But I think it’s even simpler than that. » Read more
They tell you never to go the grocery store hungry. You’ll careen the aisles, salivating like a ravenous beast, sweeping entire shelves of food into your cart. And we’re not talking celery sticks. This becomes the time when we see exactly how many metric tons of Doritos we can cram into a shopping cart. And queso. » Read more
Yes, I can accommodate change, even the not-so-fun type. And it’s a good thing, too.
Because I don’t get a say.
None of us do.
Change is going to happen, no matter what we do. It’s not a question of if, it’s a question of when.
The sensible thing to do then, » Read more
“I’m a people pleaser,” they say. “I can’t help myself. When I see someone wants something, I have to give it to them. I need to make people happy.” And it sounds like a good thing, at least on the surface. What could possibly be wrong with people pleasing?
Plenty, it turns out. » Read more
“Do you smell smoke?”
“Probably just the BBQ joint down the street,” they reply. “I bet the wind is shifting.”
Except you’re not so sure. “It’s awfully warm in here,” you say.
The heat grows. You see a flame out of the corner of your eye. » Read more