Nobody’s Pizza Chef

pizza being made

On the rare occasions that I happen to talk to vanilla people about BDSM, it’s always quite eye opening.  One thing I hear a lot is they could see themselves enjoying giving such a beating or doling out orders, that it seems fun. But getting a beating or following orders…? Dream on, Pokemon.  » Read more

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PQ 1.6 – How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?

two interlinked heart-shaped carabiners

Poly Question 1.6

How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?

“There is no such thing as a lover’s oath.”
-Plato

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From “Worse is Better and Better,  » Read more

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Stupid Ravioli Crush

ravioli with marinara sauce on a plate

It’s a painful kind of limbo, being extremely physically attracted to someone, all the while knowing if I actually had to be in a relationship with them, odds are I would be constructing a morning star from large unopened ravioli cans and wailing them in the head before the end of the first week.  » Read more

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PQ 1.5 – How important is transparency to me? If I have more than one lover, am I happy with them knowing about each other? If they have other lovers, am I happy knowing them?

a transparent organism where you can see its spine

Poly Question 1.5

How important is transparency to me? If I have more than one lover, am I happy with them knowing about each other? If they have other lovers, am I happy knowing them?

The importance of transparency for me is very context dependent.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Sucks  

I could never have an ongoing romantic relationship with someone who would not meet Skyspook.  » Read more

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