You know it’s going to be an interesting meeting when the first item on the agenda is “Please fist me.”
Ok, I’ll rewind.
It started a week earlier when I’d confessed to Skyspook that I didn’t know how to help him, how to play my part in our relationship, build the D/s dynamic. » Read more
Before my explorations in kink with Skyspook, there was another man, Ex-Boyfriend in Cleveland. I met Ex-Boyfriend through a girl I was seeing as he was her husband’s best friend and her friend with occasional benefits. I had already become rather curious about the kink scene as a result of the apparent crossover between polyamory and BDSM. » Read more
These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my relationship is monogamous, meaning that we are sexually exclusive, I have learned so much from experiencing polyamorous relationships that I will never be the same person I was before. » Read more
“A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself into exhausting pace, and then at the end, punish himself even more.”
apophenia : the experience of seeing meaningful patterns or connections in random or meaningless data. » Read more
People within the kink community who don’t have histories of childhood trauma and abuse are just as common as those who do.
Still, to many, fifty-fifty may seem like a pretty high ratio of individuals with serious emotional baggage when compared to the general population. » Read more
There was a girl I used to date during my open marriage. One day when we were eating sushi at one of my favorite restaurants, she confessed to me that she was a “chubby chaser” when it came to men. Her fiance (a heavier guy) was fine with her dating me, and she said she thought Ex-Husband (also overweight) was hot and that she’d date him as well but that it made her fiance too insecure; » Read more
Stop lying your ass off in dating profiles and new relationships.
Look, I get it. When you’re trying to meet potential partners or develop a new relationship, you want to put your best face forward. You highlight your best features, smooth over your faults. It’s like a job interview for sex, love, companionship, » Read more
Today’s squick is tomorrow’s kink.
Inevitably, I’ll find myself in the same situation. We’ll be at a party discussing sex, a common occurrence as the vast majority of my friends are kinky and sex-positive with roughly two-thirds of my crowd being polyamorous, and a discussion will break out about any number of fetishes, » Read more
A special thanks Dan and dawn over at Erotic Awakening for mentioning my blog and the post “Slave Heart” on their podcast here.
Apparently, I have a very sexy neck. Hey, I’ll take it. 🙂
And for anyone else wondering how you pronounce “Obscurantista,” » Read more
Okay, let’s start off by saying that however agreeable I seem, I am NOT someone who likes teamwork. Here’s an excerpt from a blog I kept for a class I was taking (creative non-fiction) a few years ago regarding my dynamic with Ex-Husband:
We are tethered together. When one of us falls, » Read more