Choosing

You know it’s going to be an interesting meeting when the first item on the agenda is “Please fist me.”

Ok, I’ll rewind.

It started a week earlier when I’d confessed to Skyspook that I didn’t know how to help him, how to play my part in our relationship, build the D/s dynamic.  » Read more

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Poly Debriefing #3: Don’t Fight the Moonlight, an NRE Survival Guide

These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my relationship is monogamous, meaning that we are sexually exclusive, I have learned so much from experiencing polyamorous relationships that I will never be the same person I was before.  » Read more

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Portion Control

“A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself into exhausting pace, and then at the end, punish himself even more.”

Steve Prefontaine

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apophenia : the experience of seeing meaningful patterns or connections in random or meaningless data.  » Read more

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One Size Fits All

There was a girl I used to date during my open marriage. One day when we were eating sushi at one of my favorite restaurants, she confessed to me that she was a “chubby chaser” when it came to men. Her fiance (a heavier guy) was fine with her dating me, and she said she thought Ex-Husband (also overweight) was hot and that she’d date him as well but that it made her fiance too insecure;  » Read more

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Your Kink is Okay

Today’s squick is tomorrow’s kink.

Inevitably, I’ll find myself in the same situation. We’ll be at a party discussing sex, a common occurrence as the vast majority of my friends are kinky and sex-positive with roughly two-thirds of my crowd being polyamorous, and a discussion will break out about any number of fetishes,  » Read more

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Yay!

A special thanks Dan and dawn over at Erotic Awakening for mentioning my blog and the post “Slave Heart” on their podcast here.

Apparently, I have a very sexy neck. Hey, I’ll take it.  🙂

And for anyone else wondering how you pronounce “Obscurantista,”  » Read more

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Accountability

Okay, let’s start off by saying that however agreeable I seem, I am NOT someone who likes teamwork. Here’s an excerpt from a blog I kept for a class I was taking (creative non-fiction) a few years ago regarding my dynamic with Ex-Husband:

We are tethered together. When one of us falls,  » Read more

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