Could Procrastination Sometimes Be a Form of Masochism?

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It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.

You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person.  » Read more

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I Don’t Know What Kind of Fighter I Can Be, But I’m Here

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I’ve always envied folks who have self-righteous confidence. An unwavering sense that they’re always the good guy in the story, an agent of justice. Who instinctively scream at perceived unfairness, rush head on into it, attacking it with little forethought and certainly no regret.

That’s never been my automatic response — to nearly anything,  » Read more

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What It’s Like Being Featured in Media Pieces About Polyamory

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Hi Page,

I’ve been reading Poly Land for a while now (first the site and eventually the book). I originally stumbled onto you after you were featured in The Huffington Post in “12 Questions People in Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick of Hearing.” I’ll be honest. I was kind of mad when I saw the article after a friend shared it.  » Read more

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Why It’s So Tough to Write About Problems in Public

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I’m talking with a friend who, like me, has been blogging off and on for years. Recently, she just had her first viral hit.

Viral, of course, is a relative term. There are the modest successes that can feel viral when you’re used to basic obscurity. Perhaps you have a few thousand people visiting your site overnight all looking at the same article,  » Read more

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