Helping People Learn to Crochet During Nuclear Winter

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“Look at the bright side,” I say to him. “When Roe v. Wade is overturned, you’ll be a hot piece of ass with your vasectomy and all.”

He cracks a smile. Chuckles. “You’re terrible,” he says.

“Maybe,” I say, “But you laughed.”

“I did indeed.”

It’s maybe not the best way to deal with the feeling that the world is ending any day now.  » Read more

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When You’ve Changed, You Have to Decide Whether to Accept It or Try to Force Yourself Back

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Two months ago, I moved from Cleveland to Dallas. I laughed the first time I was asked if I might be amenable to moving to Texas five months ago.

But the more I learned about the job opportunity in Dallas, the less insane it sounded.

And a month after that, I was straight out getting rid of most of what I owned,  » Read more

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When Worrying, Remember You Don’t Get Credit for Time Served

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I’ll let you in on a little secret: There are times when no matter what you do, an issue is going to be ambiguous. You’re not necessarily going to get clarity or answers that satisfy you completely.

Maybe you’re worried that your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore. And maybe you’ll find yourself embarking on a fact-finding mission.  » Read more

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What I Did When a Powerful Person Said Bad, Untrue Things About Me in Public

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It’s been a weird sea change for me the past few years, building up an online presence. It wasn’t like this at all in the past. I worked on the sidelines of publishing, mostly as an editor at some literary magazines with occasional publications in little magazines that nobody really read. Won some writing awards only a handful of people cared about (but which did help me pay my rent,  » Read more

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I’m Still Taking Birth Control After 20+ Years, But the Reason Has Changed

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For as long as I can remember, I’ve been terrified of getting pregnant.

I suppose it didn’t help that one of my formative experiences surrounding pregnancy involved a teen mom who looked miserable. She was the daughter of one of my mom’s friends. Had gotten pregnant in high school. And whenever my mother and I would stop by to visit her friend,  » Read more

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