A new term has sprung to prominence recently, spurred on by a meme that’s going around. Petamours. The exact meaning of the term isn’t clear. It’s already being used a variety of ways. But from what I can tell, “petamour” is a term for a pet that is in your life because of your polyamorous social connections. » Read more
Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind
“You know what I’m looking forward to the most about buying a house?” she says.
“What’s that?”
“Personal space. Privacy,” she says. “And lots of it.”
I nod. I know what she means. As it stands, it’s pretty much impossible to have a date over in her apartment and have any degree of privacy if her nesting partner is home. » Read more
There’s Nothing Better Than Getting Well After You’ve Been Sick For a While
I crash hard on New Year’s Eve.
Bad timing, really. Since I have 50 of my closest friends in my house, ringing in the new year.
I have what I think is a bad case of allergies mixed with jet lag. Since I’ve been in three different time zones on and off over the past few weeks, » Read more
It’s Easy to Knock Polyamory If You Haven’t Seen Any Healthy Examples of It
It’s late into the party, likely the final quarter of it judging by the sharp drop-off in energy and attendance. A lot of the guests have gone home. Most of the ones who are still here have gone inside. Out by the fire, it’s just me and my friend Z, the reverse canary, » Read more
Love Is Blind, But the Neighbors Aren’t
El amor es ciego, pero los vecinos no.
(Love is blind, but the neighbors aren’t.)
-Spanish idiom
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Sometimes I wonder what our neighbors must think of us. What they make of the cast of characters that shuffle in and out of our lives. The way strange cars idle in our driveway. » Read more
Apparently You’re Not Supposed to Invite Exes to Your Wedding. Oops.
I’ve been married twice, but until recently I had never been asked to be in a wedding that wasn’t my own. You could say I was always a bride, never a bridesmaid. But in the past few months, I received news that this is about to change.
First, I was asked to be a bridesmaid in what will arguably be one of the most polyamorous weddings I’ve ever been to, » Read more
Is It Okay to Babysit Your Metamour’s Kids?
Is it okay to babysit your metamour’s kids?
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It’s a Thursday night in 2009. My metamour has a date with my partner, but her husband gets called in to work.
“Well, that sucks,” my partner says. “I haven’t seen her for a while.”
And it’s true. » Read more
No Big Lesson Today. Instead, Here, Have a Little Slice of Polyamorous Life
Hi Page,
I’ve been curious about polyamory for some time. I do have some poly friends who seem happy, and I love the idea of it. I asked them if there were places online where I could read more. They referred me to your site as well as to some forums. » Read more
Visible Polyamory: A Public Display of Triad Affection
“I’ll be right back,” I say to Justin and Eva as I leave our table at the jazz club to seek out the ladies’ room.
We’ve been there for a few hours, having drinks, eating dinner, the three of us all out on a date together. I’m so in love I can’t stand it. » Read more
Going It Alone… Kinda: A Life Full of Love and Understanding
“I’m really sorry I can’t be there,” I said to Skyspook, hugging him goodbye at the door. He looked so good in his tuxedo that I didn’t really want to let him go.
“Me, too,” he said. “I’ll text you though. Have a great time.”
“You, too,” I said, as he stepped out the door. » Read more